PLEASE help!traumatised!!!6weeks preg??and no sign on early scan!!!

[dawny22]

HI
i worked out that i would be six weeks
pregnant, going from the first day of my last period!
i had some light bleeding (only when i wiped myself) on sat.
after going to A&E on sat Cblood took, and hormone levels high), they refered me to the early prgnancy clinic, where i have been today.
i had an ultra sound and internal scan, but there was no sign of pregnancy, my blood was taken again and was high, so i have to go back on wed for blood taken again! they said it could be possible that it has not come out of the tube yet (meaning i am earlier pregnant than i thought) or an etopic pregnancey! has anybody else been threw this??
please comment i am trying t stay positive but my worlds crumbling
dawny22

not been through it but they had real problems finding my 9wk along baby on a scan.
So fingers crossed for you.

I went through the same thing, it was twins, sadly lost on and Im now 8 week along with one healthy bubs x

Dear dawny22,

I have been through it twice and sadly in my case it was an ectopic pregnancy on two seperate occasions. I have not written this to worry you but simply because I know how alone you must be feeling. Ectopic pregnacies are rare and extrmemely difficult to diagnose so just because they are doing the tests doesn't mean you have one at all. I was told in the first hospital that they scan 100 women and only 1 will turn out to be ectopic. I was the 1. They just need to check your BHCG hormone (pregnanacy hormone) doubles roughly every 24 hours and they should probably scan you again to check for a sac. I should tell you that I was also admitted to the Gynecology Ward at the start of my third pregnancy (after IVF) because I had pain and mild bleeding. Two days later they were able to see the sac in the uterus and I am now 26 weeks plus 5 days.
You are in a difficult position and I know just how hard it is to wait. Somehow the time does pass. Just give yourself plenty of time and space and let yourself feel. During that time I read a lot and my partner tried (with more failure than success) to get me to do Sudooko.
Take care and let us know how you do. Lots of hugs.
NS XXX

Hi I had this and the baby was just coming down the tubes!

hi mumofdjandp,
when did they find the baby in the womb???x

thank you for all your stories, ill just have to see what happens on wed morning, i will let u no how i get on

dawniey22 x

oh golly thats a good question but I was just less preg than I had thought (had ovulated late) so lets pray this is the same fo you!

I do hope all is well. Let us know.

Did they mention a thicker uterus lining or nothing different to indicate a pregnancy? or maybe they didnt say?

no they diddnt mention about the a thicker uterus lining...just about my hormones doubleing since sat...so ill just have to wait and see what my hormones are saying on wed morn...i will let u no how that goes

thank u
dawny22

same as happened with me and all was well so dont give up

im trying to work out if i am earlyer than i thought...here goes i dont no wether anyone can make any sense!!!!!

first day of my last period...13th jan (which would make me 6 weeks and 2 days)

dr did a pregnancy test on the 7th of feb (got results back on the 11th) came back negative!!!

did my own pregnancy test on the 14th..two on the 15th and one on the 16th hahaha all came back possitive

hospital on the 23rd with bleeding, did another test to be sure???possitive

and then all this at the early regnancy clinic yesterday

can any one help me???is it possible i am earlyer than the 6wk 2days!!
im going insane...2morro morning seems so long away...hopefully my hormones will double again xxxx

Shame dawny22 I feel your anxiety from here.

Did they do an internal scan (as this can be more accurate than abdominal) Your bladder must be nice and full, as it is the window to your womb in the early weeks.

Sending big cyber hugs your way. Let us know how you get on tmw

Dear Dawny22,

I made a mistake in my post, I'm really, really sorry. Your hormone levels should double roughly every 48 hours but the hospital will give you all that information. They are probably just trying to rule out ectopic pregnancy. As I said before it is extremely rare. I am sure many, many women are tested just to be on the safe side. If it is of any help I was given the following tests.

1. Hormone profile.
2. Scan results (2 scans)
3. Thorough review of my symptoms(In my case I had nearly continous light bleeding, particulalry when I walked, pain in the affected side, faintness and shoulder pain.)
4. OBS taken regulalry throughout the day.

Women can have all these symptoms and not have ectopic pregnancy. That was why I was admitted and monitored so closely before anything was done. I am thinking of you. It is hard and nothing is more difficult than that wait, particulalry for a much loved and wanted embryo. One can feel very alone during that time and it will be difficult tomorrow before you go in (take someone with you). I was so frightened I could barely walk into the EPAU and I was in floods of tears. I remember how I tried to work out dates with my third pregnancy where I had similar symptoms and everything turned out fine. I am very much with you across cyber space. Lots of hugs again and let us know how you do. If you want to talk I am here. Good luck!

thank you for all of your kind words and support, going to try and get some sleep now, my appointments at 930....seems so far away, and yet in away i dont want it to come soon, as i am scared what the outcome will be! i will keep u updated...thanku again

dawny22 xxxx

let us know honey its exactly like my situ really and all was ok with me so i am hoping the same for you!

just wanted to let you all know, my hormones have halved since monday and i am absolutly devostated! thankyou for all of your kind words and for giving me that little bit of hope...i just have to try and stay strong!
To all the people who are going through a simlar thing and reading this post....my story has a sad sad ending...but as you can see there are others who have had sucsses...have hope and stay strong

i wish you ALL the best of luck and happiness

dawny22 xxx

Dear dawny22,

I am really sorry to hear your story, it is a bereavement and you will need time and space. If you are working I suggest you take time some time off. I don't know if you have any creative interests such as writing or painting. I am a writer in my spare time and I wrote about my losses which helped enormously. Sometimes people plant trees in remmeberance of their lost child but then again that's not for everyone. I have found support groups very helpful and if you want information on these just ask and I can send them.
Have the hospital given you any explanation about what happened? I found that getting a full acount of what happened to me, helped me plan the next stage.
As you can see from the stories on this site, there is hope. Give yourself the space, let your body recover and who knows...you stand every chance of having a happier outcome in the near future.
Lots of love and luck XXXXX NS

oh honey I dont know what to say

Oh dawny22 I am so sorry, may your strength carry you.

I am humbled by your kind words to others who are going through the same fears, bless you, big teddy bear hug

Dawny, I'm so sorry. I went through the exact same thing. It's such a shock. I'm sending you big hugs. You seem very strong.

As others have said, you may want to consider taking some time off.

Also I found that my oestrogen / progesterone levels went bananas three or four days afterwards, and I was very irrational. It made the coping with it worse as I was extremely emotional and out of control.

Take good care of yourself, and give yourself plenty of space. xxx

im trying to be strong but i think its more that im still in shock...im writing on the blogg as i wanted to be on my own..but not compltely on my own..and writing things down instead of talking face to face is kind of helping...if you no what i mean!!!
Newbishad, thank you so much..u may feel that you havent done anything, but your comments have really helped and made me feel not quite so alone! in infomation on support groups would be great.shall i give you my email address?? i read quite alot...but just cant face it at the moment! work have been really good and told me to go back when im ready...work with children aswell, which is going to be a challange..but i think they will help me get through it if anything!
mumofdjandp....thank you for your hope!!!
thank you everyone again
dawny22

Dawny22,

Of course you can contact me. I am new to the site so I am not quite sure how it works, but if you explain it I will be able to contact you. I know what a horrible and lonely experience it is.

I have received lots of support from the UK ectopic pregnancy trust. From your description I am not sure that that is what you had (maybe the hospital can tell you) but the address is

The ectopic pregnancy trust, C/O second floor, Golden Jubilee Wing, Kings College Hospital, Denmark Hill, London, SE5 9RS. Phone 0207 7332653. [email protected].

There is also a miscarridge association for the UK as well. Their helpline is 01924 200799.

Listen, all best wishes and remember I am here to talk if you wish.

Lots of love,

NS

I feel terrible now honey have been thinking about you all aft, i really am so sorry for your loss x

hi, well its been almost a week now since i found out..go back to work tomorrow,but have another bloood test tommorro mornin at the epu...hopefully that may give me some closeur....as i am finding it incredably hard..and dreading work as me and a co-worker found out we were pregnant the same week!
me and my partner are going to try again soon...so hopefully the next time i come to chat, it will be all good...fingers crossed

dawniey22 xxx

Dawny22, Very sorry to hear your news and hope that you get the closure you need from the blood test results.

I am going through exactly the same thing - calculated my dates and worked out that I was just over 6 weeks pregnant. I had a scan at the EPU yesterday after a weekend of very light spotting (which has now stopped) and they couldn't find anything. I had HCG tests and go back tomorrow for tests to see if the HCG has doubled or not. It is an awful, awful time - I am sorry you went through it too.

Dear Dawny22,

Going back to work is hard especially as your co-worker found out she was pregnant in the same week. One of the nurses in the EPAU said to to me "it really isn't fair" and it isn't. If it's any help I also found being near pregnant women very difficult. My colleague (who worked opposite me, worse luck) became pregnant between my ectopics and I cried openely in front of her several times. It may help you to think about how you might handle it before you meet her. I chose to be very open because I could be quite sharp with some people (particularly when they talked constantly about their children or babies) and I wanted them to understand where I was coming from. but it's different strokes for different folks as they say.
I think it's great that you are looking forward to the future and as I said in an earlier post, hopefully you will have a more positive outcome soon. For all three of my pregnancies I found it helped enormously if I was fit and I walked 4 miles per day and swam 30 lenghts of the pool 3 times per week.
I think you are really brave to go back so early. I had six weeks off after my second ectopic and almost two months after the first because I had surgery and the tube was removed.
I think it would be a really good idea to find out what happened, difficult though it is. You could ask if they think it's an ectopic that self aborted out of the tube (some do) or a miscarridge. If so...whilst it is hard to apreciate now at least you will not have suffered damage to the tubes as I did or undergo surgery which would have prevented you trying again for a while.
I wish you all the best for the future and hope to see you on the pregnancy board soon.
Lots of love
NS XXXXXX