Surprise pregnancy 6 months PP

[mrsgtobe97]

So.. yesterday at 6 months postpartum I found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant. Absolutely shocked and haven't started to properly process it. I have PCOS and with my daughter it took 3 years plus fertility treatment to get her, so this was never a possibility. We weren't trying but we weren't preventing as we thought it'd take a few years again. Husband is really happy and not freaking out, but I am. Massively😩. Luckily money will be okay but I feel so much guilt for my daughter, I planned on it just being her until she was 3-4 ish, and now almost feel like I've taken away from her.

Has anyone been through similar? I'm so teary and now feel pretty sick and awful so not helping. I'm not sure whether it's just the shock but I feel like everything is flipped upside down now 😅

Also going to say I feel guilty for feeling like this when I've been on the other end and longed and wished for a pregnancy for so long. It's so mad.

i was pregnant six months postpartum and I can tell you that you are giving your daughter a very best friend ! It’s not even that hard as the two share toys and clothes and activities are easier as they are in the one age group (nearly a decade on its the best thing I ever did)

I can only imagine your shock! But in the long run you’re going to have two little best buds! Congratulations

I'm about to give birth to no2 who I got surprise pregnant with at 7mo pp!

There's definitely a bit of guilt as he still seems such a baby himself, but I know they're going to have the best time together and getting ready for this one was so easy because all the baby stuff is still knocking around or in use!

You certainly aren't taking away from your first child, you are giving her the best friend she will ever have for life. There's an 18 month age gap between my older siblings and then another 5 years until me and honestly the relationships are very different. Your kids will grow up together!

Literally the same down to the PCOS!

15 months apart and they are now 3 and nearly 2. There was a point where I didn't think we'd have one DC so to have them both is amazing. Yes, it's hard work and childcare is expensive but I don't think any age gap is 'easy'

They won't know any different to what they've got so there is nothing to miss out on. Plus points they are into the same toys/tv and can be entertained with the same days out!

Just be glad you are in the position that money will be OK, are you planning to put your first in childcare or go back to work before this next one is born?
I absolutely could not afford 2 in nursery, going up to £85 a day in the South West

Congratulations! My friend got pregnant 3 months pp and had second when first turned 1. It was hectic for a bit and thankfully her mum was able to help. Both kids are now 7.5 and 8.5. Best of luck, it will be fine👍

Yeah we are fortunate. She is going in 1 day a week and it's £47 where I am (rural Scotland) so luckily it is affordable for 2 to be in one day and we have family to help the other 2 days when I'm at work.

Thanks everyone, you have helped calm me a bit 🤣

exactly sane position I have found myself in! 😂 had my son in November 22 & end of may/beginning of June found out I was pregnant when my son had just turned 27/28 weeks old.. currently just over 8 weeks! 😂 I know how your feeling with the guilt thing though was exactly my same thought x

I found out I was pregnant with #3 when I was 3 months postpartum and felt exactly the way you do. We wanted another baby but not for a couple of years yet and I felt so worried my daughter would feel replaced. It was rough at times having them so close in age but honestly amazing at the same time. They're 6 and 7 now and very close.

I unexpectedly discovered I was pregnant again 3 months PP.
They are now 20 and 21 and just great together, it was like having twins and they are very close.
It will work, manic but enjoy it!

I was the same. A few very knackering years but it's mostly good.

I have two children aged 9 and 10 (18 months apart) and am now 7 weeks with my third. I’ll be trying for a fourth asap because I loved the small age gap, I loved them growing up together and having my two babies.