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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Single and pregnant

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Lrose944 · 12/07/2023 13:50

Long post bare with please ,
So I’m single and pregnant im still quite early on but bit of a back story, I had been seeing someone for a while on and off but it was quite a casual thing anyway I caught pregnant, both of us were shocked he said he would support etc but I didn’t realise he was talking about termination wise when he was saying don’t stress we will sort it out etc so he has been dead set on me having a termination however I have wanted a baby for a long time and I feel wrong to get rid of it just because of the circumstances and worried I wouldn’t get another chance.
so weeks went by we were speaking and then arguing mainly as I wasn’t sure what I was going to do and this was making him angry,
fast forward now I’m 3 months I’ve made my decision I know it may be hard and lonely but my decision is made so we spoke yesterday and he said he would rather change his number and me never be able to contact him so I said fine if that’s how you feel I can’t change it weather I agree if you don’t want the baby I can’t force you and I then blocked everything I have of him. My question is though I’m really scared to announce my pregnancy mainly because what do I say when people ask who the dad is and judge me etc I know it is my own doing by going through with it but I’m really struggling and I feel like I haven’t enjoyed any of it because I am so worried of other peoples opinions. Only a handful of people know at the minute

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Lrose944 · 12/07/2023 19:06

@Jessabby89 thank you so much for this, that’s amazing !! It’s so nice to hear positive things, It is scary telling people but I guess once it’s out there it’s done and why should we hide something so special just because people may talk, you’ve made me feel loads better thank you and good luck xxx

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Jessabby89 · 12/07/2023 19:12

That's why I just put it on Facebook so the vast majority of people new at the same time. It's yes not the most intimate or special way to do it but it gets it out in the open and takes off some of the pressure. Get it out in the open so you can start enjoying every second of it :)

You are honestly going to smash it and do not need a man holding you back.

Good luck, we are all here for help and support if you need anything

x

QueSyrahSyrah · 12/07/2023 19:20

Just another perspective, I grew up as the child of a Father who didn't want anything to do with me (but had other kids) and it's fucking terrible, frankly. Very much affected my self-worth and my relationships with Men in my teens and twenties.

Aside from you and the baby's Father there's a whole other human involved here that will be affected by your choices for their entire life. Don't forget that.

Lrose944 · 12/07/2023 19:22

@Jessabby89 im just an over thinker and I honestly wish I wasn’t cause I would be so happy for anyone that’s pregnant so im sure people will be the same!

I just want to be able to excited. Thank you for being so kind you’ve made me feel so much better, people will always have something to say well certain people but my midwife said to me those people don’t even matter anyway and she’s not wrong! Xx

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Lrose944 · 12/07/2023 21:23

@QueSyrahSyrah I can imagine it isn’t nice and I’m sorry you went through that and felt that way and it is one of my many worries about it all, but then at the same time as him not wanting it I do. So I understand that but termination is also a big deal when you’re faced with it x

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