Second pregnancy guilt

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I’m pregnant with my second child, DD is 18 months and I feel so guilty.
I’m around 9 weeks, so right at the peak of first trimester sickness and tiredness. I feel like such a terrible mother, I’m not doing anywhere near as much with my daughter as I’d like to.
I managed to get us out to do a small food shop today, but the rest of the day had been spent in the living room with CBeebies on constantly.
OH works shifts, so lots of the time it’s me on my own, and I really feel like I’m letting her down. I can tell she’s bored.
Does anyone have any tips for getting through this stage? And how to feel less guilty about it?

Does she go to nursery or toddler groups ?

And don’t feel guilty, she won’t remember it.

Please do not feel guilty for being human - you could waste a whole heap of your life on that. Hope your sickness etc. improve soon.

Yes, nursery 4 days a week while I work. In a way, it makes me feel worse as I feel I should be making more of our time when we’re off together haha

So she gets entertained 4 days a week. Plus what she gets at home. That’s fine ! Are there any grandparents that can give you a break ?

You’re right. Thank you

There are, yes. I’m very fortunate that we have supportive family.
I’m often quite reluctant to ask for help - probably to my own detriment.
I know deep down I’m being silly to feel like I do, as it really can’t be helped and it won’t be forever. The days just feel so long at the moment, from the moment I get up I’m just waiting to go to bed again

Ask for help ! It’s good for her to get used to going with them for when the new baby arrives

yes you’re right, she is. They love having her, so I know it would be fine. I’m going to have to, I’m just exhausted.
sorry, just having a bit of a moan haha

Don’t worry OP, I was pregnant when DS1 was a year old, so had a 21mth gap. Two under two is hard work, but so worth it. DS1 can’t remember a time without his brother, my two are grown up now, and are best friends as well as brothers. Good luck, and many congratulations

That’s so lovely to hear, I’m hoping my two are the same!
Thank you!

I like the phrase "it's not forever just for now" for all things motherhood / pregnancy related. You don't have energy for stuff right now but you will again at some point.

Don't feel guilty OP I was pregnant with DS2 when DS1 was 6 months old I was absolutely exhausted and spent a lot of time at home lounging around due to very bad morning sickness I felt so guilty for DS1 now they are 7 and 6 years old and really are best friends the love they have for each other fills my heart and DS1 never remembers life without DS2 he was 16 months when DS2 was born. Don't be afraid to ask for help especially if you have support I'm sure grandparents will be very happy to have quality time with grandchild. Congratulations on your pregnancy

You're not alone.

I have been crying on and off all day as I waved bye to my 15 month old as she went to her grans for a sleepover.

I'm 35weeks+4 and the guilt breaking my heart. I can barely walk the length of my self.

She goes to nursery 4 days a week and I have a hands on DP and family and I keep telling myself that this isn't forever!

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You are not alone!

10 weeks pregnant myself and have a 10 month old who is very demanding, bless him - and requires constant supervision!

I have spent days lounging on the sofa just with 'Raa Raa the noisy lion" on TV unable to do anything whilst my little boy plays on the floor and I get up every couple of minutes to stop him going somewhere he shouldn't!

Have tried to go out etc but the sickness means it is borderline impossible, or was for the first couple of weeks..though it is getting better now, thank goodness!

I hope you feel better soon but don't feel any guilt!!! And remember your little one will not remember!! Xxx