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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Advice please

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1sttimepregnant · 06/07/2023 12:08

Hi all, I'm in my first trimester of pregnancy and my partner and I do not live together and have been in a relationship less than 6 months. We are in our late 30s and delighted with the pregnancy but since finding out the relationship has turned into one where we just argue about money with little affection or emotional support. I don't feel he has any empathy or sensitivity to my hormones and even when I'm upset he still continues talking about whatever is upsetting me which then stresses me out and I ask him to leave for the sake of the effect it may have on the baby. I think I have realised since my pregnancy and the emotional loving support I now need that he doesn't actually love me at all. After we have argued and he leaves me upset he doesn't even check in on me. I understand he is stressed about money but it just makes me feel like a massive inconvenience and burden to him rather than his partner, part of his team.

It is all making me feel really miserable when I want to be enjoying my pregnancy. It's something I have always wanted. I'm considering for mine and therefore babies happiness doing it alone and wondered if anyone knows what financial support I would get for this during maternity (as well as statutory) and when I go back to work after maternity. I live in the UK.

Thank you.

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K37529 · 06/07/2023 20:12

I would try and work on the relationship, yous have both only recently found out your having a baby, it's a big change, emotions are going to be running high. Plus your hormones are all over the place especially in the first trimester, I just wouldn't make any rash decisions just yet. If you work you will likely be entitled to smp, not sure what the rates are at the minute but Google will tell you.

1sttimepregnant · 08/07/2023 08:43

I really appreciate your response thank you. We spent most of yesterday talking about how I was feeling and planning so feel more relaxed now and like we can do this together. Hormones are likely a big part. Thanks again.

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