6 months pregnant and my father died

[Desperado123]

Hi everyone/anyone

My dad died a few days ago. He was feeling under the weather for a while but it was still a massive shock. We were close.

This is my second pregnancy but the first one ended in miscarriage early in the pregnancy. I am struggling how to manage grief and pain with trying to keep the pregnancy safe. I am also utterly devastated that I might have a kid and that my dad won't be there to meet him and that my grief is just to going to increase.

I would be grateful for any advice from anyone that has been through this kind of thing.

Xx

My dad died very suddenly when I was 6 months pg with DC2. It was a complete shock. I had a 2.5 yo who didn't understand where grandpa had gone too. TBH I just got through the formalities in a bit of a daze. I'm not sure I ever allowed myself to grieve properly - even now 19 years on I don't think I've really processed it.

I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope you have people to support you. My DH was my rock.

So sorry, get bereavement support ask gp how to access

Oh OP. I’m so sorry. My mum died when I was 35 weeks.

It tainted everything and it’s only now, nearly two years on, that I’m actually able to have therapy for it. I tried bereavement counselling shortly after but I was so mixed up that I couldn’t make it work.

You’ve a lot going on, so get your GP to sign you off from work.

I hope you have good, loving people around you ❤️

I'm so sorry for your loss. I think the shock is the worst.

Be kind to yourself, keep eating and drink plenty of water.

I lost my mam suddenly just after Christmas. It's still so painful but it does get easier to deal with the grief.

Sending

My mum also died when I was 38 weeks pregnant. We had the funeral 2 days before my due date. In all honesty, I just kept going physically but it wasn't until DD turned about 3 that I finally grieved properly. I ended up getting counselling about another issue but my mum dying was actually a big part of that conversation.

All I can say is take it one day at a time and make sure you keep eating / drinking water. Grief comes in waves of shock and I found sometimes getting to thr next meal without crying hard but other days it faded into the background (especially with a newborn).

My DD knows exactly who her Nana was and knows lots of little stories about her.

It depends what you personally believe, but I think sometimes an older person passes on and comes back to you as a child. Maybe you will see your father in your child, and that will give you comfort.

Thank you everyone. I am so sorry for your experiences too. It is helpful reading this because it's helpful to know that it's okay if it takes time. I feel like there's a pressure to deal with it (self-inflicted not from anyone else) to make sure that no sadness touches the baby. I will talk to GP also. Xx