Midwife booking in- partner historical drug use help

[Olivetree45]

Hi,

Im pregnant with my second child (8year old from a previous relationship) and today we had the booking in appointment with my midwife, they went through all the usual questions and when asking if myself or my partner had ever done drugs he was totally transparent and said he had done lots of party type drugs way back in his uni days. They didnt seem phased by this but did write it in the notes.

Anyway im now panicking that ill have some sort of social servoces refferal or something based on this and am wishing hed just said no- for reference ive never done drugs and my partner hasnt since his uni days and we are both now well into our 30s with jobs etc. We barely even drink (obviously i dont at all since we started ttc.) So there would be no issue but im worried that they might flag this up somewhere ! Please tell me im being overly anxious, they didnt mention it again at all but it has me abit overthinking and convinced im avout to get some sort of call from social services!

Even if you do they won't do anything about that.

Well they have to write it down as he’s told them, but no I can’t see that anything further will come of it.

Thank you, my rational brain knows it would be absolutely silly for them to do anything over someone taking drugs at uni 18 years ago but i guess i just overthought it abit and worried it would trigger some sort of refferal on their system! As i said they didnt mention it any further so I guess they would have questioned more if concerned.

Nah, I told them I did party drugs a couple of decades ago - the midwife wasn’t bothered. So many people experiment with drugs in their younger years, social services would be (even more) rushed off their feet if it was a concern. They’re more interested in current drug users - you’re fine.

Thank you- I was thinking it would be abit silly but i think pregnancy hormones are making me abit over anxious!

Why did he tell them?!

Because they asked presumably

Be fine! I've been talking to my neighbour recently he's still on drugs with his partner that is just so unwell(drug related) they still have their kids. Wrong in my opinion but your story is completely different so don't be concerned it was years ago! Xx

Oh no I was transparent too at mine. They just wrote down early 20's weed at parties. I'm 30's now so nothing ever came of dabbling a decade ago. They just need to know all history everything ect for any potential problems with baby/history ect underlying things that could crop up I'm guessing and also to asses risk. Honestly forget about it.

This. I don’t think I’ve had disclosed that, seems pointless. But each to their own.

By mistake at my appointment they wrote I was a heavy drinker (I had said I had one drink a week) and no one ever asked me about it! You will be fine

He told them because they asked and as its such a historical thing wouldnt have given a thought to it being an issue- its just my overthinking mind going over o
it after i think!

men! Let him know it's not an interrogation and he really doesn't need to divulge details like that in future. I mentioned smoking cannabis the year before i got pregnant in my booking appointment with my first baby (i think out of guilt) and nothing happened afterwards with social services. So I really wouldn't worry

Honestly try not to worry. I listed all my previous 'party' drug experience at booking in and says I hadn't done any for 10 years. Nothing happened and it has never been mentioned again. Enjoy your pregnancy!

Social services don't even have time to deal with actual drug addicts kids properly.

You'll have all the ussual visits with the health visitor and as long as you're not raising your baby in a drug den no one will do anything or raise any concerns

Hahaha I can't get children living in filthy homes suffering horrific abuse and neglect removed for their own safety and well-being. Doesn't meet the threshold. You're fine, don't be silly.