Anyone else going through ectopic at the moment

[Babafarmer]

Hello,

Is anyone else currently going through treatment for an ectopic. I had two weeks of expectant management, which then lead to me having methotrexate on Friday. My levels were low (under 100) but wouldn't drop after an initial drop. I feel very lost and quite detached from the world at the moment. Just wondered if there was anyone out there that wanted to chat and share their journey.

I'm not going through this at the moment, but I did back in September 2022. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's the strangest feeling. You're pregnant, but it's classed as a dangerous medical issue and so treated as one.

Do you have support at the moment? Feeling detached was my way of coping with it all. I went onto autopilot. I ended up losing my tube as the methrotexate didn't work, and my HCG kept rising.

I'm sending you courage. You will be ok, but right now take it an hour at a time.

Hello thank you for your reply, yeah I have support but my husband works very long hours so it's me and 2 year old. I suppose because I was so lucky to have a straight forward first pregnancy. I am gutted and didn't expect to be in that 1%.
I suffered anxiety so I struggled with my first pregnancy. I was so excited this time getting pregnant because I thought I’d have less anxiety because I’d done it before but this has now robbed that. It’s filled the future with fear, so much so I don't know if I can face doing it again. Then there is the chance of my fertility being affected and the increased risk of a second. I have been lucky this time next time maybe not as soon I as got a positive test I would be so full of anxiety and fear until I’d found out if it was in the right place.

I know it's early days and I have at least 3 months before I need to make any choices but I can't stop my mind running away. You are right I need to focus on the present, I don't even know if the methotrexate has worked yet, it's day 7 tomorrow. But I need to get my head out of this consumed mess so I can concentrate on what I have (my little one) and not what could have been.. Xx

Hi @Babafarmer, I hope you are feeling better now a few months have passed and come to terms with you experiences. I hope it's on the up for you from here.
I've just started Expectant Management and my numbers went up from Friday to Monday from 401 to 594. I have more bloods tomorrow. The mass also went from 8mm to 12mm. I was only scanned on Monday this week as I insisted on it. So I now know the mass has grown. I've been told they don't do scans during EM and tomorrow will just have bloods and Friday, too. (Unless I decide to go for the surgery as I'm struggling to cope.)

What was your experience during the 2 week EM process - just bloods or scans, too? And did they do another scan after 3 months of HCG hitting 0 to see if the mass was still there? That was news to me on Monday, that it can still be there even after HCG going down...

I hope you are doing well after your experience @Amuseaboosh ?