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5 weeks - feel like death!

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Schoolchoicesdilema · 19/06/2023 22:06

I’m 5 weeks pregnant with my second baby and feeling absolutely horrific. I had a very easy first pregnancy 3 years ago with DD, but have never felt as ill as I do already this time round! I’ve been nauseous non stop, all day every day, and am sick every morning like clockwork. I feel as though I’m right on the verge of being sick, constantly. Even after I’ve been sick the feeling only fades for about an hour.

But the fatigue is the worst thing - I feel like I’ve lost my entire personality. I don’t have the energy to do anything. I’m napping 3 hours a day on days I’m not working, and wake up feeling exhausted and ready for another nap instantly. I run my own business and DD was at nursery today, while I was supposed to be working on the business at home. I literally lay on the sofa all day, just about worked up the effort to make some cereal. 3 hours after waking up I was exhausted and went to bed for a four hour nap, woke up, managed to microwave some lunch and collapsed on the sofa until DD was dropped home by her Dad. Struggled through the afternoon, microwaved dinner for us both, felt like crying when I realised I needed to walk back down the stairs to get her teddy after bathtime. Did bedtime - came straight back down to lie on the sofa. Exhausted and ready for bed again now, trying to summon the energy to walk upstairs for bed.

I feel so useless, especially after having it so easy the first time round - I was very tired, and napped a little, but was functional when I wasn’t sleeping! This time around, I’m worried about how I’m going to keep working if it keeps up or god forbid gets any worse. I feel like I’ve got horrible stomach flu, that I know will last at least another 6 weeks!! I’m never really ill, and very much someone who gets on with it even when I am - have never been the type to lay around even if I am ill, but it has totally floored me this time around. I am dreading the rest of this trimester and even more scared that it might not abate at 12 weeks. I do think the heat is making it worse, and I feel feverish - hot one moment, shivering the next. DP is being brilliant and doing cooking cleaning etc. but works long hours and also has elderly parents, not at the stage of needing care but who need a lot of hand holding and help with basic tasks so it’s all a lot for him too.

Just looking for some solidarity I think! Has anyone else felt this exhausted/sick? When did it start to get better? Did anyone else have a much tougher second pregnancy than first? I am still breastfeeding though only a couple of times a day, and think I may be depleted after being pregnant and or breastfeeding for 3 years! I am taking my prenatal etc but probably do have low iron. I feel awful but I can’t even get excited about the baby - I just feel horrible! I’ve also just been promoted at my other job (part time), moving to a new site and don’t want to tell them until I’ve signed my contract and settled, but I’m worried they’ll think I’m awful at my job because I can barely function!

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Whataretheodds · 20/06/2023 08:54

Definitely see the doctor about sickness.

I hear you! Just started a new job and was struggling to hold it together last week. Listen to your body when it needs rest, be smart about what you're actually expending energy doing

SwirlyShirly · 20/06/2023 12:54

It's just grim isn't it. I had HG from 6 weeks onwards with both my pregnancies and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I was in and out of hospital throughout second time around on drips and a cocktail of medications, and still lost 3 stone. Do make sure you ask for help and be persistent, there's no need to put up with it. And be ready for all the people suggesting you "try ginger and sea bands"

bluebell34567 · 20/06/2023 13:17

i was just like this when pregnant with my son. it lasted up to 4 months.
ask gp if any help there plz.

Blughbablugh · 20/06/2023 13:55

I didn't have the sickness but definitely had the fatigue with my second. It was during lockdown and so was working from home but even then I still couldn't cope. You have my sympathy as it's horrid, especially with having a child to look after as well. For me I started to feel better as the pregnancy went on, not really tiredness wise but as the baby grew and it started to feel more real. I also found it helped to remind myself that I was growing a human being and to cut myself some slack.

Singleandproud · 20/06/2023 13:58

I had hyperemesis with DD being rehydrated in hospital made a massive difference to my energy levels as did getting on the correct anti sickness meds.

sociallydistained · 20/06/2023 14:02

I didn't know I was pregnant until 8.5 weeks 🤦🏻‍♀️ but I honestly thought I was dying at 5/6 weeks I had two, what I thought were, periods so had no reason to think I was pregnant. I remember saying to my friend something is wrong with me as I've never felt this bad in my life... so I completely relate 😩

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