Overwhelming anxiety

[Kitty43]

I hope someone can help me here and I'm not sure whether I should be on here or on Gransnet. My 26 year old announced out of the blue that she is 13 weeks pregnant and I just can't cope with the news. All I feel is absolute fear that something is going to go wrong. I can's stop catastrophising and feel ill with anxiety. She is in a steady relationship with a lovely guy and this is all she's ever wanted. I don't know what to do and who to talk to. I feel like I am cracking up.😰

Oh I’m sorry - anxiety is so difficult. Is this out of the blue for you, or are you generally prone to anxiety?

Can you pinpoint exactly what it is that’s worrying you? Something happening to your DD, or the baby? Did you have a traumatic pregnancy yourself? Is it bringing up some unresolved issues, maybe?

Your GP would obviously be the first port of call, I think.

Thank you. You are very perceptive. Yes, I am prone to anxiety and my DD was a longed for baby who was in special care when she was born. I always worry about her but this worry is next level.

I see - I think that’s natural then that you are experiencing these feelings as you don’t have a positive experience yourself to look back on.

Have you had any counselling? I really think that would be beneficial. Obviously the last thing you want to do is to let your anxiety affect your DD’s pregnancy or early days as a mother, and you deserve to have a wonderful experience as a grandmother yourself. If you can afford to pay for some therapy I think that would be a great gift to yourself and your DD and soon to be grandchild. You deserve to feel excited about this new chapter in your family life, not anxious.