Unexpected pregnancy

[Alicemon]

Hi all!
This is my first ever time writing in a forum but I would be very very grateful for any advice…
Me (32 years old) and my partner (same age) we have been together for one year and a half. We spoke about marriage previously and kids but he is Christian and very traditional so we are taking our time. We don’t even live together as he believes we should at least be engaged to live together. I live by myself in a rented studio, he lives with his siblings.
I haven’t met his family, apart of his siblings and a short encounter with his mum. He hasn’t met my family apart from my siblings (as my family lives in Portugal).
We both have full time jobs Altought he just been fired so he is looking for other job. I wouldn’t say we are fully financially stable.
I just found out 2 days ago that I’m pregnant… it was a big big shock!!! I’ve burst in tears…
We had a conversation a while ago about abortion and he is against it… I am pro, depending on the situation. I’ve always said if I’m not ready to properly raised a kid I would abort… he was surprised when I said that…
I haven’t told my bf yet as I still don’t know what I want to do and I’m so afraid of his reaction and how this will impact our relationship. He is lovely and we have the healthiest relationship I could ever ask… and I’m so afraid… this pregnancy will be a big shock for him.
I don’t think we are ready to raise a child. But I am afraid he will say no to abortion…. And it will break my heart…
and the more I think of it the more I wonder: should I have the baby? We are both adults…
I don’t know what to do… I am in completely shock and I can’t stop crying…

he is Christian and very traditional

Not THAT traditional, clearly.

Do you want a child? Do you want to bring up a child with him? Would you want to bring up a child if you thought the relationship wasn't going to last?

His views on abortion are not the point. It's your body and your life.

Hi OP, it might be best booking an appointment for both you and your partner at a family planning clinic. You should be able to fully discuss your options and they will help you to see what you may or may not be ready for.

If OP is pro-choice but her partner is not it would be better that he doesn't go tot he family planning clinic

@Whataretheodds maybe best for just OP to go then, to give her the chance to explore the options and what is available and what she actually wants to do.

So he is currently unemployed, still lives with his siblings at the age of 32, and is a self confessed hypocrite - happy to have premarital sex, but against cohabiting with you? Does he have any redeeming features, OP? What kind of husband and father do you think he would make?

He isn't very traditional, as he seems to have been happy to be having sex before marriage. I assume he also wasn't bothered about organising contraception eg condoms for himself?

If you are too scared to tell him then your relationship isn't as healthy as you might think. He also doesn't get to say yes or no to an abortion, for him that decision point has passed when he had unprotected sex.

The questions for you are whether or not you want to have a child at all? Then if you do, do you want to raise a child with this man who may or may not want to be involved. Also, whether or not you are in a relationship with him. Then, if you can financially afford it, assuming you get no help whatsoever from your boyfriend. People can manage without loads of cash, what is the maternity package like for your work and do you qualify for it? etc etc.