7 weeks - feeling lonely

[hollym512]

Hey everyone,

I'm 7 weeks into my first pregnancy and I haven't told anyone (except DH) yet. I've been having pretty dreadful symptoms including nausea that lasts all day long and cramping / back pain, which has meant I've had to work from home a lot and I feel guilty not being able to explain why.

I didn't expect to feel so alone. My husband is super supportive and lovely but I can't help feeling a bit sad when he's at work. Every time a friend texts to ask how I'm doing I am completely torn at what to say. My husband and I agreed we'd wait until at least 8 weeks to tell family and 12 weeks to tell friends, but I just have this niggling guilt that I'm being dishonest, and I feel like I just want friends to know what's going on with me!

We're visiting my family next weekend to share the news, which I'm looking forward to.

Did anyone else tell friends early?

I didn't tell anyone except DH with my first pregnancy. When it ended in a loss I wish I had told them. I assume you agreed not to tell anyone in case things don't go to plan? If that's the case I would suggest you should feel free to tell anyone who you would discuss a potential loss or pregnancy issue with.

It was hard telling people that something had gone wrong when they didn't even know I was pregnant. You shouldn't have to feel alone, the first couple of months are so hard and you should be able to share that with your friends.

This time around (i'm not even 5 weeks yet) I've told my mum and my 2 best friends and I feel so much better for it :)

Do whatever feels right for you, oh and don't feel bad about WFH, just take care of yourself and baby :)

If I were you I would talk to my husband and let him know how lonely you are. You could agree together to tell a couple of close people now just to allow you some of the support you need. I’m sure he’ll understand.

I had a chemical pregnancy first and when I had my second (and now 25 week) pregnancy I told my 2 best friends as soon as I found out - they were/are both pregnant too and it was such a lifeline especially when I had way worse first trimester symptoms than I was expecting! The husbands can only do so much and it's soo nice to talk to people who've been through it (and can tell you for them what week certain things ended by!)

I told one friend at seven weeks, and it was so nice having someone other than my husband and medical staff to talk to. I didn’t need to tell the world, just to share the happy news with someone was enough.
Explain how you’re really feeling to your husband. Pregnancy is tough enough without placing emotional stress on yourself.

The way I saw it when I was pregnant was tell anyone as early as you want if they are people you will talk to if something were to go wrong. Might aswell have their support from the get go if you would go to them anyway