7 week scan.

[Nelbert91]

Hi everyone, I know this has probably been discussed a million times (I know as I’m a long time lurker first time poster) me and my wife (same sex couple) have been going through fertility treatment for just over 2 years now. We are going through IUI. We finally got the AMAZING news that we are pregnant on our latest cycle (3rd try) we were scheduled for our 7 week scan on Monday just gone and when we got there we were so excited. My wife had an internal and they managed to see the Gestational sac, the yolk sac, and they belive the fetal pole but wasn’t too certain, in the end she said it was but was unsure for a while which hasn’t given me doubt, she said she couldn’t see a heartbeat but not to worry as we are measuring to the day. She’s booked us back in for a second scan next Tuesday the 13th. She didn’t say anything more, after leaving the clinic I obviously did the stupid thing of doomscrolling on google and saw that it’s likely we’ve had a MMC. I can’t sleep I can’t stop crying, it’s the longest wait of my life! How common is it not see a heartbeat at this stage? Can it be missed? Can’t wait to hear from you all. Thankyou

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't offer advice as I haven't experienced this exactly (I had an ectopic pregnancy where I lost baby and almost died). It's so hard but there is nothing you can do; I would say remain hopeful but prepare yourselves for all outcomes. If it was measuring OK then there is possibility all is well. I think heartbeats are normally around 6-7 week mark. When something is out of your control it's so frustrating. Try to focus on other things until the next appointment (easier said than done) and be so kind to each other. My horrible experience made me love my husband so much more. He washed my hair, fed me and helped me walk after surgery. Whatever the outcome is, be there for each other. ❤️