38weeks with #2 and feeling apprehensive

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Every thread I see is women wishing the baby here by this stage...

I'm the opposite.

This baby is so wanted. But I'm so scared for our lives to change and particularly the changes ahead for my two year old DS.

I'm so worried that he's going to hate it and I'm dreading the sleep deprivation and the recovering from birth (was awful last time) and even though I enjoyed bf I didn't stop long ago feeding my first so it all feels a bit soon!

I'm excited of course at the same time, but just so scared of what's ahead. Scared it'll break us as a family when things have just become a bit easier.

Any words of wisdom to help me feel more 'ready'?

There's two years between my two and my first was the worst sleeper, couldn't put her down she would only sleep in my arms and cluster fed constantly. I had mentally prepared myself for this to happen again with my second but he was a great sleeper, he slept in his basket and I had to wake him for feeds. Hopefully yours will be the same 🙏 I was really worried too that my first wouldn't like the baby but she loves him to bits and has done since the day I brought him home, they're 2 and 4 now and the best of friends 🥰

I'm in the same situation

38 weeks tomorow and excited but absolutely dreading the sleep deprivation, especially with a toddler this time and hoping like hell my toddler accepts his little sister and is excited and cute with her!

My son also cried a lot as a baby and I feel our life is so easy now with him as a toddler! Even though i know this is what I want I am still apprehensive about how it will effect our lives

I had agreed to get an induction at 40+3 (not medically necessary) but I think I'm gonna give it a bit longer and see what happens as I'm in no rush

I felt this way to. We where all happy as a 3 and i was so worried the baby would ruin the dynamics. As my due date got closer it really hit me and made me feel anxious...Im 6 months in now and still no regrets. My son adores her. She is a very clingy baby so id been worried my son would get frustrated but ive tried my best to work around it (the sling has been a life saver) and ive started having little trips out just me and my son and he loves it.
Im so tired some days but second time round you know its not forever so i think its a little easier to deal with.
Getting my son involved really helped.

I think it is totally normal to feel that way. Any huge life change brings a certain amount of apprehension with it. I definitely felt the guilt and worry for my older DC and how it would change things for her. Also the last bit of pregnancy is full of hormones which doesn't help! But as someone on the other side of where you are (just! 2nd DC is 2 weeks old tomorrow!) It hasn't been anything like as bad as I feared. It helps that this one sleeps better than my first (still every 2 hour feeds but settles better) and honestly watching her relationship blossom with my eldest has been the best part. Noone can know how birth and the recovery will go but usually 2nd births are quicker and easier. Mine certainly was and I was home the next day and back on the school run within 36 hours of birth!! The problem is that you are dealing with unknowns and limbo land is a tough place to be even without all the hormones. But all those fears and doubts will hopefully diminish once your little one is here and you will find your new normal quicker than you imagine. I've been surprised how easily we've adapted to a second, it's no where near as life altering as having your first!!!! X

I'm the same too, cannot wait to hold our baby girl she's very much wanted but I have two other children aged 6&9 and we've finally got rid of the toys taking over the living room period lol, the nice lie ins as kids can entertain themselves, and generally having a more relaxed quiet household and it's obviously gonna change 😂it's quite daunting although I am still excited! I would say they are very normal feelings, at least that's what I'm telling myself! (I'm 36+3)