How to tell your parents you're pregnant

[OnMyJourney]

So I am 15 weeks pregnant and I still haven't told my family I'm pregnant, we've told my partners family but haven't told any of mine yet, I am a fully grown adult with a job and my own house and we're in a great situation to have a baby so there's no reason I should be nervous to tell them but I am. I'm definitely not a "tell you in person" kind of person, all of my partners family we told in person and I found that awkward (of course they are all really excited for us) my partner said we should be telling my family in person as we did with his but to be honest I'd be happy just to text my parents a picture of an ultrasound or something, does this make me an awful person or do I need to suck it up and tell them in person 🥲

I’m similar to you OP, I found announcements really awkward.

But I do think maybe you should tell them in person, especially for a first baby. They might be a bit upset if you don’t, especially if they find out you’ve told your in laws in person.

Just bite the bullet and say. “so we have some news… we’re having a baby”. I find producing a scan picture more awkward because there’s a few seconds delay while people work out what you’re waving at them 😅

For the first one I said that I really wanted another dog but God had other plans and for the second one I said it is not just DC who has a baby in their tummy (my DC has been pretending to have babies in their tummy)

Agree that it is cringy and did not want to do the popular social media announcements

I was really nervous to tell my parents I was pregnant for the second time…because my first baby was only 8 months old at the time.
I knew I couldn’t just come out with it. So I waited for Mother’s Day (when I was around 10 weeks) and got a Mothers Day card from my DD to my mum and wrote a cute poem that dropped the bomb at the end 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🙈

@OnMyJourney i feel the exact same. I’m 10 weeks and the only person I’ve told is my BIL because we see him loads and I was sick of hiding not drinking. I made my DH do it!

I also just want to text my parents but think I’ll suck it up and do it person. I’m planning to get a card I can just hand to them rather than say it. I don’t know why but i also find it really cringy!

I felt exactly the same as you OP. Luckily it was covid so had a good excuse not to do it in person but I do think a phone call would be better than a text of the picture. They'll probably just try and call you straight away anyway.

I just did it over the phone, had a normal chitchat like usual and then said, 'oh by the way I also need to know if you want to be called grandad or grandpa or...etc' until they got the message with out me having to really say it 😂

My first baby I was still living at home. Was an adult and been with my partner for years but wasn't ready financially etc. I knew I wouldn't be able to say the words and also knew if I sent a message I would be too scared to go home 😅. I waited fo secret Santa at Christmas (I was 16 weeks by then) and gave my sister an 'youre going to be an aunty' frame with the scan inside. Very small delay where my heart stopped beating 🤣 but then it was done and I didn't have to physically say the words!

We bought scratch cards from Amazon 😂

Either:

Go and see them. At an appropriate moment, say “We’ve got some news. I’m pregnant”.

Or same statement on the phone.

No scan pictures, no cards, no coy references or hints, don’t usurp someone else’s day (mothers’ day, fathers’ day, your sister’s birthday, the day your brother tells you he’s been made redundant etc).

But get on with it. Think how upset they’ll be if they hear it from someone else, what with you having already told so many people already.

In person is best! If you're concerned about their reaction, people are better behaved in public. You could send them a message and say you have some news and would like to meet them for lunch. They'll probably have an inkling by that which makes it easier as you'll all arrive and they'll be expecting an announcement and will probably respind positively.

With my first, we visited them and told them at about 9 weeks (when they got back from holiday). Secondtime my mum guessed because I was so ill and had to ok out of visiting her with DD at short notice. Am 16 weeks and haven't told them yet this time because I know that won't think its a good idea!!!! Have told DD and she wants to tell them.... wonder out if I'll chicken out and let her do it for me...

If you don't live close or see them regularly a phone call or video call is fine. Or perhaps a Father's Day card tk your dad with a scan pic addressed to grandad?

Or t shirts or mugs with grandma and grandpa on

It's a while away but you could wait til father's day and get a 'grandad' card and put a scan photo inside.
I did similar. It's saying it in person without having to speak it out loud.

Im awkward on these things too. Need to tell my wider family I'm 17 weeks but as they now all live far away I haven't felt up to it!

I told my parents over the phone, I don't think I told anyone face-to-face except my partner, infact I got my partner to tell my brother 😂. I dont know why but announcing that I'm pregnant to people makes me feel really awkward lol