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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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bit taken aback by today's events

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bitshockedrightnow · 19/02/2008 18:35

My DS is 10 months and was concieved after 1 1/2 years of trying.

I'm getting on a bit and both me and DH want more children so we decided to stop using contraception last month thinking it would probabl;y take a while again this time.

So.....guess what....I found out today that I'm pregnant.

I know I should feel over the moon, but I actually feeling a bit shocked and am struggling to feel happy about it. DH is very happy BTW.

I'm due to go back to work in 2 weeks and was really looking forward to having some of my old life back before getting cheggers again.

Can someone give me a shake, tell me to cheer up and assure me that I'll feel differently in the morning......pleeeease!!!

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constancereader · 19/02/2008 18:39

I have just got pregnant again surprisingly quickly and I was taken aback too. You will feel differently in the morning! You just need a little time to adjust. I consoled myself by remembering just how awful it was trying and trying with no result. This is loads better.

Congratulations btw!

Piffle · 19/02/2008 18:43

oh on our march 07 post natal thread there are at least two expecting in the next week or so!!! Console yourself you'll be fine! Congrats.

funnyhaha · 19/02/2008 18:44

Congratulations
Totally understandable reaction imo - I conceived dd in the two days I thought I was ready for a second one - expected things to take a while and was in no hurry.
In comparison to the first one, I had a much more realistic sense of how hard it would be, how tired I would be. I also 'mourned' the end of my special time with ds.

The good news? The pg, birth & experience of having two dcs was much better than I ever expected - they are now just 4 & nearly 2 & wonderful fun to be around.

2happy · 19/02/2008 18:48

I think it's natural to feel apprehensive when you might have been expecting more time to adjust to the idea. There's a week under 20m between my two, and I don't think it's a bad thing at all. The first six months were a breeze, far easier than I'd expected; the second were tougher, but things are much easier again now. And the two boys get on really well, which (a generalisation I know) is supposed to be the pay-off of small age gaps. But dolder sis has 2 years between her 2 and I can't say as I've noticed any practical differences between her life and mine. And look at it this way, if you were always going to go for a second, you were always going to have to take more time off work, go back to sleepless nights etc, this just gets it over and done with faster! congratulations

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bitshockedrightnow · 19/02/2008 18:51

Thanks for your messages ladies.

I feel like crying right now, but I know I'm going to feel more positive soon.

DS is so gorgeous that I'll happy to have another little one like him around the house. You;re right- I just need to adjust to the idea.

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dizzydixies · 19/02/2008 18:53

I think I went into shock when I found out about all of mine.
dd1 took 10months to conceive, dd2 was within the month and this one about 4months - I think its something you need to absorb and get your head round everytime but its one of these things - whats meant for you won't pass you by!
congratulations and good luck
xx

NorthernLurker · 19/02/2008 18:57

Congratulations!

newgirl · 19/02/2008 18:59

bit shocked - can i suggest that you really plan to have lots of help when new baby arrives - it might take some of the element of shock/what happened to my time out of it

MrsTittleMouse · 19/02/2008 19:07

I'm feeling exactly the same way. We're infertile and we thought that there was no way I would conceive DB2 even though I had treatment (loads and loads of rounds for DD1, DB2 on first try!). I really want this baby, but I am finding it a bit of a shock to be pregnant when I never thought that I would ever go through it again.

I do think that it's a shame that I've lost my body again, after only a few months of non-pregnant/non-breastfeeding and it doesn't help that I feel really tired and sick and I'm chasing after a toddler. I find myself willing this baby to hang on though, which I think betrays my true feelings. DH is thrilled. I keep telling him that this time should be his turn to have the baby.

Minkus · 19/02/2008 19:51

I can really feel for you. But well done you two! I'm 20 weeks pregnant with dc2 and it was conceived the night dh said he was ready to start trying again. (I had been badgering him for about 2 years, dh was walking around like the puffed up god of supersperm when I did the pregnancy test) DS (now 3.2) had taken 14 months of no contraception to conceive so in my head I wouldn't be pregnant for aaaaages. It's only now that I actually "feel" pregnant if that makes sense, it's taken me 20 weeks or so to get my head round the fact that I am actually pregnant- just didn't anticipate it happening so fast and guess my brain has just absorbed it bit by bit rather than all at once as with ds. Be kind to yourself, it's a bit of a shock whether planned or not so a bit of time will make you feel better I'm sure.
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