ADVICE PLEASE LADIES PREGNANT AFTER MISCARRIAGE

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Good morning ladies,

Sorry for the long post ahead of this.. I was just hoping that some of you lovely ladies could give me some comfort/words of advice ❤

I had a MMC in March this year at just over 9 weeks, I opted for the D&C procedure to try and get this behind me ASAP as I was honestly broken and depressed.

On the plus (very positive side!!) I have just found out I am pregnant again yesterday. Positive test on FRER and a strip test (quite strong lines) and then I got Pregnant 1-2 weeks on a CB digital. I am completely over the moon and could not be happier. I feel so blessed and grateful that this baby has chosen us to be parents.

However, of course because of my upsetting past experience, although I am really excited I do feel extremely anxious and worried and I am struggling to put my mind at rest.

I am just scared deep down of going through another MC and I cannot bare the thought going through that again. The worst bit about it was that I had an early scan and saw a heartbeat and was told everything was OK and then another early scan a couple of weeks later showed there was no longer a heartbeat.

Does anybody have any kind words to help me and make my mind feel a little more at rest, does anyone have any pregnancy success stories after a MMC and also what are the chances of this happening to me again and having a recurring miscarriage?

I would appreciate any kind of answers, just please be honest and truthful!

Thank you ❤

I had a miscarriage early November in 2021 and then conceived my baby boy around 14th dec 2021 with no period in between. I can't say I enjoyed my pregnancy due to what happened the first time but I can say is just take each day as it comes, you have to be patient and try and trust your body again, please don't be harsh to yourself and when you do start to get anxious and feel yourself spiralling, make yourself busy. It is so cliche but it does help take your mind off things. As your pregnancy gets further along you'll start to feel a-bit more relaxed with each step. There is no magic cure to make you just not worry but just know I was in the exact same position as you and I now have a happy healthy baby boy sat on my lap, same as other people who will have been in the same position.

Hi my love! I had a miscarriage in feb and became pregnant straight away in March before I had a period. I was a mess in 8 weeks but I’m now relaxing into the pregnancy and whilst there are worries they are more of a passing thought than consuming me like they were. Things do get better! The first part is so hard.

what helped in my first 8-10 weeks was reminding myself that this is a different pregnancy and my body has no memory, that helped me a lot. Also, I luckily had a scan at 6 weeks with my EPU where we saw a heartbeat and booked a scan privately ar 8 weeks and everytime seeing the baby’s heart brought me a little bit more peace.

you got this mumma!❤️

Hi

I had a miscarriage in September last year and I was shocked and delighted to realise I was pregnancy again in November! I'm currently 30 weeks. 😀All is going fine so far but of course you will feel nervous for a while, like me, and then eventually settle and enjoy it all. Congrats to you 😉

My story...Had a 5 yoDS at the time of mine. 13 week scan showed no heartbeat for our 2nd. I also opted for D&C as felt more final. I was a bit depressed. Went to see GP. He gave me.a sick note for a few weeks and said basically, get back on the horse. This was 20 years ago. Miscarried October 02. Got back on the horse. Had our 2nd, a DD September 03. Worried yes. Overly. No. I'm not generally a natural worrier. Think that helped me through it. That, and work and DS kept me occupied. I just kept going day after day.
I don't think you realise how commonly it happens until it happens to you and other people speak of it to you if you are open about it. That really surprised me. I had zero issues with 2nd. And then went on to have another DD 4 years after that with no issues either. They're now 25, 19 and 15.
Keep in mind there are happy endings for most of us thankfully. Good luck with it all!

Not MMC but I miscarried last January, fell pregnant again in the April and now have my beautiful DD napping on my chest as I type. The anxiety to get here was like nothing else though so please reach out to your midwife/GP for support if you think you need it.

I had a mmc last April for my first pregnancy, ending in an incomplete miscarriage and surgery in May. I conceived again in August and had my little boy last month. I had the anxiety throughout the first trimester thinking it would end in a mmc again. I had an early scan at 9weeks and the dating scan at 13weeks and they were both fine. My anxiety stayed until the 20 week scan (it was irrational, but I had just moved my anxiety onto the next milestone). After 22weeks I could feel kicks and that really helped to reassure me. At that point I bought some clothes as a way to be positive going forward.

Good luck, hopefully it will all work out this time. I have a friend who had a miscarriage and then went on to have a little boy on her second pregnancy as well.

Firstly sorry for your loss but also congratulations and your pregnancy

I had a MMC at 7 weeks 5 days and am now pregnant at 18 weeks and all is fine :) the comforting words my dad gave me was the first time your body sort of freaks out like oh what is this?! But second time it’s like yup we got this. Miscarriages happen because something isn’t quite right.

make sure to take care of yourself

Wow I love this thread!

I had a MC end of feb this year and currently pregnant again, very early and experiencing all sorts of worry and obsessing over everything, they say it's very uncommon to have it happen twice in a row so fingers crossed

Certainly seems possible that all will be ok if you read this thread 🤞🤞

Hi I’m pretty much in the exact same situation as you OP. Had a MMC in February and now I’m 7 weeks again. I found out at my 12 week scan that the baby’s heart had stopped at 8 weeks (we had also had a scan confirming a heart beat before this). I’m trying not to worry too much and think that there’s nothing that I can do at this stage to change the outcome of this pregnancy. It’s just a waiting game until I can get an early scan

Miscarried at 9 weeks fell pregnant again within the month (no period) and all was absolutely fine. Good luck OP!

I'm pregnant with my second. Had 3 early losses and freaking out about an mmc as I had one in my first pregnancy. Trying to stay positive but its so hard 😪. X

I found this tool from Tommy's helpful after miscarriage for support and looking at the chance of having another miscarriage.

https://www.miscarriagetool.tommys.org/

Good luck, I hope this time works out for you!