Relationship/BD during pregnancy

[Moonchild5]

I don’t know if I’m just hormonal & overthinking but sex had decreased significantly since becoming pregnant which I half expected the further I got into my pregnancy but on my part though as I didn’t enjoy sex in my previous pregnancy(different partner) once a month maybe my partner initiates sex(initiated most days pre pregnancy) he would rather watch porn & masturbate which he does at least once a day. I know sex isn’t that glamorous when pregnant especially later on so maybe he doesn’t want to but I just feel unattractive & just feeling horrible tbh. I don’t want to say anything if I’m just overthinking it I just wanted some advice before/if I do.

What’s BD?

Baby dance = sex

Oh god. Please just say 'sex'.

Be an adult and talk to him about it.

You sound very immature.

What happens if you initiate sex? Did you tell him you didn't enjoy sex in your last pregnancy? How can you have got pregnant at least twice but not want to type S. E. X. on a forum for strangers?

To be fair to the person who wrote the original post, BD used to be really common abbreviation used on forums like mumsnet. Granted I'm going back a good 10+ years here but I do remember it being a normal one. Not a phrase I've ever liked myself but doesn't bother me that she's using it.

OP you have to speak to him. You know it's the only way to get any worthwhile answers. Is it possible he's not sure on how safe it is to have sex in pregnancy? Maybe he's got questions and is also scared to speak up. Communication is the only way to get it resolved

I only wrote it in the subject I wrote “sex” numerous times in my post & I would rather say sex I only used that as that’s what I see written on here all the time I’ve only just learnt all the abbreviations in this pregnancy from reading posts. Twice I’ve wrote posts on here I haven’t posted in ages because my last post I had to ask to be taken down cos people were tearing me to shreds & reduced me to tears. I only want some advice & my question answered.

@Moonchild5 , I think you are probably a bit overwhelmed. Sorry for that. Still can't get over the fact your partner watches porn and masturbates at least once a day, I think that's nuts for an adult. To me it sounds like he has an addiction problem and I m guessing when one is bombarded by exotic sexual stuff, normal couple life becomes not interesting enough. So I think the problem liws with him...
It can also be that he doesn't want to put you in an uncomfortable situation. I would suggest to be honest with him and get your answer.

Yeah I think it’s more he’s pretty much a sex addict when the sex reduced from once a day a few months after we got together he wasn't too happy but I told him for me to want there’s things that lead up to it for me it’s things like saying good morning, giving me a hug, offering a cup of tea, have we fell out that day? Did you put your towel in the wash that day? Things like that sex is more than a physical thing for me I don’t just get horny & I can’t just do it at a drop of a hat. The fact he does want sex all the time though but doesn’t try anything anymore & goes through to the bedroom & shuts the door every night. If he wasn’t wanting it all the time I wouldn’t be so offended but the fact he’s horny constantly & would rather masturbate. And I know I’ve said I’m not that horny/don’t need sex that often but I’d be happy to do it even once a week but it’s like 4-6 weeks just now. Maybe it’s just not that exciting for him since I’m pregnant. It just leaves me feeling unattractive especially when I know he’s watching beautiful women it’s just a horrible feeling.