AIBU @ 38 weeks

[MelissaD10]

Just want some opinions really… my husband decided a few days ago that when I will be 38 weeks and a few days pregnant he wants to go on a trip to a football match 250 miles away from where we live. So a 500 mile round trip at least. It’s my 3rd child and I think this is ridiculous as it could easily be born before he could get home.
tell me, am I being unreasonable?

No, he's being unreasonable, it's crazy how men think because the woman is pregnant that she is solely responsible for all, he should be there incase something happens the same way you wouldn't plan a trip abroad incase you went into labour. Stand your grand and say no way is he going and if he insists give him what for until he gets the message. He's defo being unreasonable

No he's being out of order here. I had dc2 at 38 weeks. My partner wouldn't even travel into the office from 37 weeks and that was half an our away. I'll also add labour with dc2 started out of the blue and was born withing 6 hours of first pain.
Too unpredictable to risk

If your other children were induced or came late at like 40+ then I can understand his thinking but he’s still in the wrong.

Thank you both.

my first was a 26 hour labour but my second was 5 hours… the journey home by train takes at least 3 hours not even taking into consideration he’d have to catch a train and travel to the station /hospital on either end. And if that train got delayed he could so easily miss it if it was the same length of our 2nd.

ive struggled since 5 weeks with this pregnancy just general problems, feeling terrible with zero support from him and this is just the icing on the cake at this point. I’m so angry.

Both were bang on their due dates, with this pregnancy I’m measuring ahead and I think that I’m actually a week earlier than I am based on my dates but the hospital changed my official due date at the 12 week scan . So I suspect when he wants to go I’ll actually be about 39 + 2 days

Definitely not. After 35 I didn't like mine going more than an hour a way with a car. I had 3, 2 at 37 weeks and other 38, my 3rd was v fast and I wouldn't have been able to get to hospital without oh driving me without a taxi

Definitely not unreasonable. Even you went into labour and he got back in time for the birth, how unfair that you had to do it without him and sort out the logistics of sorting out the childcare for your other 2.

I can't get my head around a man wanting to do this if he's a nice, decent, present partner.

It just wouldn't be worth the risk of missing it / not being around to provide you with support for as much of labour as possible etc for a decent partner.

You say he's been unsupportive throughout the pregnancy and I'm so sorry. Pregnancy is tough enough without having an unsupportive, selfish 'partner'.

Do you have a support system aside from him?

It's all personal choice, my DH went abroad when I was 37 weeks with DC4. DD born a couple of days after he got back. I was comfortable with that decision.

I mean it's not good he hasn't been supportive though.

I do thank you.

just feel like this time it’s been an inconvenience to him, there’s been a lot of extra stuff this time round like we were high risk for Down’s syndrome at one point, they thought I had a blood clot etc… but I just feel he forgets it’s me who is going through it.

and I’m sorry but this football thing even though he says he’s not going just really hit a nerve