Husband doesn’t want termination

[Akaksjsiek]

Hi, just wondering if anyone has ever been in a similar situation? I have a surgical termination booked in a few days. I will be 6 weeks, unplanned 3rd pregnancy that I don’t think I can handle. We have 2 children already and I just don’t think I can cope with a 3rd in any way.

Husband was raised catholic and doesn’t agree with my decision - he says it’s wrong but he will stay with me anyway. he has been quite depressed about it and we haven’t been talking much.

any advice? I already feel awful I am in this situation and am struggling with guilt but I feel it is the best choice for my existing children and my mental health.

This is an extremely tough situation, I really feel for you. Can you talk to your husband a bit more about the practicalities of your situation? Is there any way he take on more of the responsibility with the third child? Could you seek further support for your mental health?
Ultimately, it is your decision and you need to do what is best for you. Unfortunately, it may irreversibly damage your relationship with your husband though.

Oh what a dilemma. A horrible situation to be in.

what had you discussed/agreed regarding your family? Done or will have more kids at some stage?

what is DH doing to prevent you getting pregnant?

what are you doing?

Only you know whether you could cope with a third or not, if there's anything DH could do, you could pay for help with that would make it do-able.

I understand both of your points of view, but you can't both have what you want/need. Your body, your decision BUT if you don't want resentment you're going to need to come to an agreement.

him saying but he won't leave you is a low bar in a marriage.

Oh my goodness @Akaksjsiek I am in exactly the same position! Unplanned 3rd pregnancy. I really don't want another and find it hard juggling my 1 and 3 year old. I know deep down I don't want to go ahead, particularly as I have health issues after my previous pregnancies and am also having horrendous sickness but my husband is really keen that we go ahead. It's a horrible situation.