Too old?

[Mommaloo]

I'm 42 years old and extremely broody. I have a 5 year old little girl and she's just amazing. I would love to give her a little sibling. Last year we were pregnant and got to about 10-12 weeks pregnant before having a very traumatic miscarriage. My husband and I both felt at some point that I may not survive it. The medical staff couldn't confirm the outcome. They worked fast and thorough and we're amazing. Got us all through it and sent me home the next day.
I'm torn on what path to take. I would love another baby and am fully aware that my age is against me in actually getting pregnant. That I accept and happy that if we were to try and I don't fall pregnant, at least we tried. We have a beautiful, healthy, happy 5 year old girl and thank our stars daily. Even when she drives me absolutely scatty.
Am I being selfish and putting myself at risk if we do fall pregnant? Is it wrong to know that we could possibly have a not so healthy baby (would still be very much loved and adored in this family) to bring into the world? After having such a threatening miscarriage before, what are the chances of that happening again?
Is there anyone who has been/going through the same?
Thank you.

It's a very difficult position to be in OP, I really feel for you.
You're right to acknowledge the increased risks to you and the pregnancy with your age, but only you and your partner can decide whether that's a path you want to pursue regardless.
Have you considered your thoughts regarding adoption if you weren't able to conceive in the next 6-12 months, or complete a pregnancy?

I would seek advice from a medical professional as to the chances of the problem you had last year happening again. It could be unlikely to happen again or it could be a bigger risk. If it was me I would need that information before deciding to progress with TTC x

Hi OP. I'm 42 and due soon. I was amazed to get pregnant at my age and I also had a couple of miscarriages. I think it's good that you're realistic. There's no harm in trying. Your body will let you know if you're too old. A friend's neighbour is currently pregnant at 45, so it is unusual but not completely unheard of.

It is not unusual for people to get pregnant in their 40s,however I just think once u past a certain age it can be selfish to want to put ur body through that as there is higher risk... However only you can decide what is best for you... It's different for men as they are not carrying the baby or going through labour