Hey. Some of you may have seen my previous post on where I found out I was pregnant on contraception. Now I need some advice from neutral people.
me and my partner have been together 13 years, have 2 children and I found out I am pregnant on the coil. I don’t know how far I am as have no periods but I can either be 5 weeks or 13 weeks.
my partner works away from home and often travels a lot and has done for years leaving me across the country for months at a time on my own raising our two children. He was a doting father and amazing partner until he started working away, he lives two lives in short whilst I am struggling to keep myself afloat, work, raise the children etc. (I have a lot of family support which I’m grateful for), anyway to not bore you with details, I found out I was pregnant last week but kept it to myself as I was unsure what to do, since I’ve found out my ‘partner’ has done a few things and things have come out which point out he hasn’t been loyal to me over the years. He is due to go away for months in a couple days but instead of coming to see his family, I got a very very accidental FaceTime which showed him in a bar surrounded by women. In complete anger I cut the phone off and messaged him saying he has ruined 13 years of a relationship and that I am currently pregnant. I got no reply and he hasn’t tried to contact me since.
I am unable to even come to terms that a man I made a family with, I grew up with is acting like this especially towards his children. Now my question is what do I do? I know I’m struggling as it is (although my children are my world and are very happy and healthy), I deserve much more than that POS, he will not want another child not that he bothers now anyway and I cannot rely on my family to do much more for me than they already are. But something is telling me to think about it, I’m so stuck. Are my emotions all over the place? Am I thinking right? Do I just want this baby to hang onto a relationship that I keep getting disrespected in? Help please.