Anyone else pregnant and struggling with toddler bedtimes/sleep

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Just feeling so alone. Wondered if anyone else is in my boat!

34 weeks pregnant and I have a 27 month old Ds. He's always been a terrible sleeper. We still cosleep and he wakes 2-4 times a night generally.

I can cope with this.

What I can't cope with are the recent nightmare bedtimes taking sometimes up to two hours.

He doesn't self settle we stay with him til he's asleep. We've tried cutting the nap down, waking him by 1pm from nap, pushing bedtime back to 8/8.30pm, no afternoon tv or sugar... we've tried everything except dropping the nap completely (he absolutely still needs it and would nap for two hours if we let him!)

I don't think there is a solution we just need to ride it out so not necessarily looking for advice but definitely after some solidarity if anyone has any on offer 🤣

Third trimester is so exhausting without this toddler cr*p as well!!

I'm in a similar boat, 33 weeks pregnant with a 2.5 year old who still wakes a couple of times a night and bedtime takes 2 hours (he's often not asleep until 9ish). It is exhausting! No tips to share, also hoping that this too shall pass!

Maybe try cut out the nap for 2-3 days in a row, not completely, just so they're tired enough at bed time. If they sleep any better then let them nap again in the afternoon x

Our toddler sleep has just started to improve but 6 weeks ago our new baby arrives and sleep has been unsettled. No great words of advice, but understanding and think it's quite normal.

I know you can cope with co sleeping but my baby wakes my toddler up in the night so unless you plan to all be in the same room it might be worth changing this now so baby doesn't become the reason your toddler's world is turned upside down.

At 27 months our daughter started to drop the nap (young I know), so maybe she would nap 4/5 times a week. By 29 to 30 months she had totally stopped even in the car. She was a reasonable sleeper before but then started sleeping 12 hours per night solid and asleep just after 7pm. Maybe try it one day but pull bedtime forward.

I also find getting out every day where you can and getting them plenty of exercise really helps. Do you have black out blinds now the light nights have come?

As others have said he might sleep better now if you can transition him to his own room before baby arrives. You might be surprised how this goes. We have just done the transition to big girl bed and no dummy at night and it's gone much better than I ever thought it would x

Sorry just seen the bit about not asking for advice. It is so so hard when they won't sleep we went through the long bed times at approx 18 months and it was exhausting. Hopefully they will come out of the other side soon x