Number two or wait?

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So I know I’m going to get mixed views on this post, but all I ask is that you at least are polite and don’t judge.
So I currently have an 8half month old, I’m a single mother and looking to get peoples
opinions on when they had number two? The broodiness for me has not gone away at all, I waited nearly 10years to have a baby and my goodness I love him so so much it hurts, but hormones being hormones I am ready to give him a sibling.
My question is when is it right to start trying for baby number two, I want to wait till the wee one is a year-year and a half old maybe and then start trying to he’s potentially be coming up to 2 or just over 2 yrs old when his sibling came along (all going to plan, but understand it might take longer) did anyone else find it easier to have them closer in age or harder I mean potentially two under two I know it’s not going to be easy but I just wasn’t sure what other people found harder or easier? Waiting till they were a bit older again or not?
I’m nearly 30 and his dad is just over 30 so obviously would prefer not to wait to much longer, but equally don’t know how little one would adjust to having a sibling is it better/ easier while he os younger so he’s not so jealous when the limelight isn’t on solely him, or is it better to wait till he’s older and I can explain a sibling better to him so he’ll better understand….? Need some first hand opinions tia ladies :) x

Are you in a relationship with his dad? I’m not sure that I personally would have a second so soon in your shoes as a single parent. Good luck though.

I've got a 2.5 year age gap, I couldn't have coped with less at the baby stage but now they are older I wish the gap was a little bit smaller.

I think 2 years or thereabouts is ideal though. They have similar interests now which is great though do argue over toys as they always want to be using the same thing!

Can you afford two children?

Just realised that you're single. I'd definitely not have another baby in that situation.

Childcare costs are the main reason I will be waiting until my little one is 2 before trying to conceive again, we can't afford to have 2 in nursery without the first getting the subsidised hours.
I don't want to be in a situation where either I or my partner are stuck at home full time for a few years because we don't make enough money to afford the childcare

I know a a few with 2 under 2 and it looks very hard.

If this current pregnancy is successful I will have 3.5 years between mine. Some might think this is too much but my DD sleeps all night in her own bed, is potty trained, eats independently, goes to morning nursery and has started to try to do things for herself like put her shoes on etc. Personally I don't think I could have coped with another baby until she was at least 2.5.

With regards to age you have time on your side. But you mention being a single mother, I think pregnancy with a toddler as a single mother would be incredibly hard. Pregnancy has kicked my arse this weekend and my husband is very hands on x