Pregnant single heartbroken and feeling alone / trapped

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Hi all. I made a post recently about my ex
We have split up and he is now with his ex girlfriend has been sleeping with her for months whilst I've been suffering. They have a child.together already and she said she was pregnant but not sure if she's lying or not.
I am 26 weeks pregnant and on the verge of a mental breakdown
I cry constantly, struggle to move out of bed and I am in a dark pit of depression

I know he's still wirh his ex and sleeping with her bur tries to hide it from me. I've stupidly tried again with him as I was so desperate for a family and feel so alone and unloved. Struggling to let go.

I want to cut him out my life (I will allow him access to the baby) but he really has treated me awfully since I've been pregnant. I feel so trapped lost and alone. I am truly heartbroken constantly thinking about how he chose her over me when I am carrying our innocent son.
He said he doesn't want me but will be here to support me when i give birth and after but cant support me now.

I feel so angry and so much resentment for what he's put me through and how unsupportive he has been in my pregnancy

My question is how do I deal with feeling so alone and trapped whilst he is happy moving on with his ex doint what he wants not caring? How do I come to terms with it and lastly how would I co parent with someone who has actually completely destroyed me at the most vulnerable time in my life. This is my First pregnancy and after this traumatic experience I never want to be pregnant in future again.

Im truly a broken woman 🥺

Sending you love OP, you sound like you're going through it. I can't really offer much but you need to put yourself and your baby first. F**k him frankly. He's off with his ex, and is being awful to you (in spite of you carrying his child).

Regarding your feelings and moving on, you can do it-it may take time but you can get there. He has made his bed so he lies in it. You have done nothing wrong in this situation (from reading your post). You need to see your worth and see you're worth so much more than that.

It's all about you and your son going forward 😊

Sending such big hugs! He sounds like an absolute tw*t to be honest and does not deserve you. I think regardless of him being babys dad you need to go cold turkey on him and have absolutely ZERO contact until you feel better mentally. Block him, delete him and tell him you'll be in touch at some stage in the future. It is so hard but it will give you the breathing space you need. You need to look after yourself and your little person, set yourself really small achievable goals that will make you feel good - go for a nice walk, get out of bed, get showered and dressed, make some nice food or order a pizza. Be kind to yourself. Women are amazing at supporting other women, do you think you could join a local ante-natal group or a pregnancy yoga class just to meet other women? Failing that there are always women on these forums ready to support you. I know your heart is broken but this is not a man you want in your life. And his ex is very foolish. He has been so disrespectful to you and I don't think you should give him the power to ruin this wonderful pregnancy experience for you. How dare he! Keep focusing on that little heart beat in your belly and make all the little steps you need to to make yourself feel better. Leave your ex reeling and when he comes crawling back (as they tend to) be strong enough to say "No thank you!"

Sending so much love xx

For now you need to focus on your health and that of your baby. That means eating properly, getting some fresh air, going through the motions somehow.

Plan for your labour and the time immediately afterwards without him. Find a birth partner (girlfriend, mum, midwife you trust). Women are brilliant at supporting other women. You don't need him and he has made himself irrelevant . Don't communicate with him again until after your baby is born.

Plan nice things, your baby's name, your nursery, start thinking about all the practicalities and getting them nailed down. Maternity leave, then childcare. The birth will come soon and your baby is relying on you.

You are going to be a brilliant mum. Just focus on that xx

Thank you all so much. I need to try and be strong now even though it's.so hard
I am worth better than this and need to realise that x