Advice

[Lanie03]

So I’m 14 weeks today and I’ve already got social services involved due to me and my ex partner’s relationship. They are coming to see me to chat in two weeks which I’m fine about I have nothing to hide.
as they’ve been involved since they called me to see if I hadn’t miscarried ( yes their exact words ) I have went and bought everything I think I need for basics.
I’ve got her nursery started with a cot and a changing table then in my room I’ve got a next to me crib and downstairs a Moses basket. I’ve started buying nappies, wipes , baby shower gel & soap. I’ve got the Tommy tippie bottle prep and Tommy tippie bottle steriliser and bottles.
is this the basics? I have nobody to help or ask for advice so been looking on google and TikTok for advice.
I just want to have everything ready so they can see I’m trying. I could just be overthinking all of this but I’m absolutely terrified this is my first child that’s stuck this far and the thought of the social taking her away from me scares me.

Also to add , I’m 19 so they’ve been involved with me since I was 16 but they were just in the background whereas now there in the picture full time if you know what I mean

Surely all this depends on why social services are involved... If they are only concerned about your ex partner, provided you're not together and they have no involvement you have nothing to worry about.

If they're concerned about your ability to be a parent it sounds like you're doing a great job so far and are much more organised than most people. Good luck!

Have you signed up to the NHS antenatal classes? They’re free and would show that you’re eager to learn and prepare yourself.

But yes as @TTCJJB says; if this is actually about your ex then that’s the bit you need to consider?

It's great that you are preparing in terms of physical stuff, but it's really not necessary until later in the pregnancy so I don't think your social worker will be so worried about that. They might want to know more about what support you have around you in terms of friends, family and partner, and how you plan to provide for baby once they are here, is your housing situation stable etc, are you taking care of yourself, taking antenatal vitamins and eating right etc.

As others have said, don't worry too much about having all the baby stuff ready, not many people have everything at 14 weeks.

I imagine they'll just want to talk to you about how you're feeling about being a mum, if you have any support from family etc.

Good luck x x