"Your bumps soo big!!" And "You can't get any bigger!?"

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At 7 months.. feeling like crap as elderly (really frigging annoying and loud) neighbours continually laugh and comment on my bump size every time I see them. This is baby no2 and yes my bump is big and uncomfortable and I don't want to be laughed at.

I was a bit shitty with them and said "you're supposed to make me feel good!" and "oh stop it you're making me conscious" to which DH now thinks I was overly hard back to them!?

AIBU?

It's terrible how much judgment there is. I don't think your response was harsh at all. An opposite experience I got quite a bit was 'your bump is so small, is there even a baby in there?'. Do you want me to whack out my scan pics for you?

@SpringTime2023 ahh I can imagine that was really irritating, and so insensitive!!

The man next door also regularly says to my DH "aren't you so glad that's not you?" In front of me! Yeah cheers you insensitive old git!

Why is it when people see a pregnant person and talk to them that's the only thing they can think of saying?

I had an old boy ask me who ate all the pies when I was about 7 months pregnant. He was lucky I was working (and couldn't tell him to FO). I just looked at him like I was about to exterminate him with lasers from my eyes 🤣

Of course you are not being unreasonable: Uninvinted comments about someone's body are always rude, and being pregnant doesn't make your body a public property for everyone to pat, comment on, etc... One thing you could try is ask them "why are we talking about my body?" like you are genuinely puzzled. It might shut them up.

Some people are just bloody rude I was big withy first tiny with my second and average with my third but my mil decided to comment after I had my third (the DAY AFTER) that I still looked pregnant and she laughed like it was hilarious apparently I looked daggers at her then straight at her (not flat) stomach I didn't even speak tbh I was still processing a polite response and she said yes well enough said and moved on 😆 my (then) husband said the look on my face was enough to scare anyone

I had large baby bumps but didn't mind when people commented. I'd just nod along and say yeah I know, very big bump blah blah blah

I do think for older people, it did used to be seen as a bit of a compliment! If they're over 60 I'd give them a pass. Annoying though, I know!

I had similar years ago. I was also just over 7 months. I work in a field where I come into contact with lots of doctors. One day an experienced obstetrician colleague came in and looked at me and said ‘what are you, 34 weeks?’ - I was 34 weeks and 2 days. In other words, I looked completely normal sized for my dates!