Help please

[Fuzzyhead1]

Hey newbie here. Might be a long post but my head is going to explode. So my partner and I have been together for 9 months. He also has an ex wife (not divorced) and 2 kids. I found out they have been sexting each other and sending rude pictures to each other for 7 months off our relationship. Yes we spilt up I called him names etc.... We got back together and now I have found out I am about 3 weeks pregnant. She is one hell off a prick. I've not met her in person just seen all the arguments etc and shes uses his kids as a weapon sometimes. So obviously telling her is going to be a nightmare. What's on my mind at the moment is there planning a trip to a amusement park. They have been on trips together with the kids before etc but what happens in 9 months. Are me and baby gona be left out while they go and have family fun days!! I am adult enough to be a co-parent but she is like satan.

You’re definitely going to attract lots of different views and opinions on this one OP.

Firstly, I don’t think the blame can all be on her. I know it’s difficult (I am a step parent) but it seems your partner hasn’t been the best either? I’d have cut him off at first sighting of the sexting. So I can see why you don’t like her - but he was the one in a committed relationship, not her. Albeit, I don’t agree with eithers behaviour.

If you really want to move on from everything he has done, then there needs to be a middle ground. IMO. Either you attend as a family unit together to co parent altogether. Or, you do separate things and he no longer goes with his ex wife but builds a life with his current children and you and his new baby.

I’ve always found it weird when people still go with their ex partners / husbands / wives on days out. It’s not for me. And DH also agrees. We’ve built a solid relationship together and when we have his son we do things as a family us three, without an ex.

We can all co parent amazingly together and DHs ex (maybe it’s because it was a one night stand so different) is really easy to get on with. But none of us would enjoy going out together for a day at the park.

Again- you’ll get some really mixed and divided comments on this. But I’d say my biggest concern is his sexting lol. That’s a big no from me.

If I were you I would get my ducks in order to prepare for life as a single parent. This seems to be how it’s going to pan out. Wishing you and your baby all the best

@Fuzzyhead1 Hi OP
how did him and his wife split up? Did she maybe find proof he was cheating on her?
to be honest you are letting love rule your decision and have branded her satan when you don’t know her only what he’s told you maybe she wasn’t always like that and the way he has treated her she’s slowly ended up like that?! Also if he sexting her he will be sexting others too but since you are back together and pregnant congratulations btw I think you need to be adult and try and get on with her since they already seem to get on so well regardless of the arguments you don’t want to be the one that ends up coming off as a prick especially in-front of two weans.

good luck x

Unfortunately you will probably be left out. Does seem like he is not quite sure which island he wants to stand on and is looking to fly backwards and forwards. Mine did this and it really sucks - sorry OP

Unicorn.. she cheated on him with the guy shes with now who obviously doesnt no they have been sexting. When I found out I msged her. She has no empathy for what she has done then tryed to say that she is not letting me get the kids ready for school etc and never leaving them alone with me and hes not having them. So she uses them as weapons and they she does something wrong but yet I'm the bad person.

Oh n its got worse. So they now want to stay in a hotel. In separate rooms. I put my foot down and said no so that's just caused a mass argument and at the momemt I will be a single mum.