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Where to breastfeed at night?

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Catlikereactions · 23/04/2023 21:26

My husband and I are wanting to keep the spare room with the bed in for him to go in if he needs a proper night sleep. But I’m now wondering if that’s a good idea (a cot / chair can’t fit in with it)?

where do you breastfeed / feed the baby at nighttime do you do it in a chair in the nursery?

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Elle2018 · 23/04/2023 21:54

Mine were in their own rooms from a young age (this was a few years ago now so I image guidance on this has changed) and I used to sit on the floor to feed them because I barely used to wake up and more than once nodded off whilst feeding so baby used to lay on my lap. I was incredibly lucky though that they. It's slept through from about 11-6 from 4 weeks so I didn't suffer too badly for long.

JeepersCreeperrs · 23/04/2023 21:54

Once baby was big enough and feeding well established, lying down in bed! Before that, sitting up in bed. Too cold in the chair.

Chocchops72 · 23/04/2023 21:55

Should add that I didn’t do anything other than feed them, cuddle and get back to sleep ASAP at night : no lights, no tv, keeping everything very, very calm and boring.

GloomySkies · 23/04/2023 21:55

I was very open minded about most things, baby wise - no set plans on formula, dummies, sleep training, weaning etc but I was absolutely dead set against co-sleeping. DD was dead set for co-sleeping. She won.

mangomama91 · 23/04/2023 21:56

Always in bed! Either sat up on lying down (especially on the 56th feed of the night 😴)

Thinkbiglittleone · 23/04/2023 21:56

I was always scared of falling asleep on him, so I got up and fed him in what was going to be his bedroom. It was lovely, just sat in my our feeding chair rocking away in the quiet of the night, just the 2 of us....I miss that time

Bashshell · 23/04/2023 21:56

In your own bed with one of the next to you cribs attached, put baby back in after a feed.

AP5Diva · 23/04/2023 22:00

I sat up in bed or sat in a rocking chair by the bed. We had a side car type cot attached to the bed. I didn’t trust myself to feed them lying down and besides they all had colic or reflux and had to be fed semi inclined (head higher than feet) and then winded after every feed anyway.

Imenti · 23/04/2023 22:01

In bed, we had a Next2Me. But at about 5 months I started to feed in a rocking chair in her bedroom so she could get used to being in her own room ready for moving her in when she was 6 months. Whatever you find the most comfortable I'd say, but not too comfy that you fall asleep!!

HamBone · 23/04/2023 22:01

Chocchops72 · 23/04/2023 21:53

In bed. We had a 180cm wide bed, plenty of room for me and baby, and DH too.

the thought of actually getting out of bed at night to feed a baby😱

Youre sounding judgmental, @Chocchops72 ( perhaps unintentionally) .

Are you seriously suggesting that there’s something “wrong” with night feeding in a chair? I also used to pump immediately after feeding to keep my supply up, people do what works best for them.

Sherrystrull · 23/04/2023 22:01

gamerchick · 23/04/2023 21:27

I had the big bed to myself and co slept. Means I usually got a decent night's sleep.

This!

tealandteal · 23/04/2023 22:04

I’m surprised at how many people managed to feed in bed, I found it so difficult to get comfortable and kept sliding down. I had a chair, rocking chair with second which was more comfortable. The footstool made all the difference. Both mine hated the Moses basket so they went into their cot bed from day 2, which was at the end of the bed, chair next to the bed. When baby moves in to the nursery, chair goes with you. It’s lovely for reading bedtime stories etc and cuddling with them as they grow as well.

My second was also a sicky baby so at least I always had a clean bed to get in to!

MadEyeMoodysEye · 23/04/2023 22:04

We co slept so I fed them lying in bed.

JRsandCoffee · 23/04/2023 22:04

In bed with husband next to me. He used to do any changes, field any major crying and return baby to cot when we both fell asleep, felt like a team effort to us.

WildCountry · 23/04/2023 22:04

I co slept for the first year. Fed on one side lying down then flipped them over to the other side the next time they woke. Not HV advice, but I couldn't cope with any more sleep deprivation than I already had!

HamBone · 23/04/2023 22:08

JRsandCoffee · 23/04/2023 22:04

In bed with husband next to me. He used to do any changes, field any major crying and return baby to cot when we both fell asleep, felt like a team effort to us.

@JRsandCoffee We tried a team effort, but sleep-deprived me found sleep-deprived DH SO irritating that I decided to do everything at night myself.🤣

Phoebo · 23/04/2023 22:09

Bassinet, cot (when older) next to my bed. In bed to feed, then back into bassinet/cot. Then when they went into their own room, I had a futon (couch/bed) in their room and fed on that. This also doubled as a bed for emergencies if DC was ill and I needed to sleep in their room (very rate, maybe did this twice a year?)

DiscoBeat · 23/04/2023 22:10

We had them in with us until 6 months but when they were tiny we had a single bed in the nursery as well. My husband had a long commute at the time and a very early start so as I was BFing anyway it made sense to go in there with them if they were unsettled so he could catch up on a bit of sleep.

MathsNervous · 23/04/2023 22:13

Fed all of my babies in bed when they were tiny.

alyceflowers · 23/04/2023 22:20

I fed the baby lying down in our bed. DH slept in the spare room for safety reasons for the first few months.

Emmamoo89 · 23/04/2023 22:21

In bed x

rickandmorts · 23/04/2023 22:27

First few nights of dds life I'd get up, prop myself up on pillows and feed sat up in bed. Once we'd both got the hang of breastfeeding I'd just feed her lying down (we co sleep). I find it loads easier and I can hear her stirring when she wants a feed and get the boob in her mouth before she wakes up fully.

Yerroblemom1923 · 23/04/2023 22:33

In bed! I didn't want to get up and go anywhere else at 1am, 2.20am, 3.20am, 4am etc etc just get baby from cot, feed, then both back to sleep for 20 minutes 🙄
They have to be in your bedroom for at least the first 6 months anyway. Can't remember how old ours were when we moved them into their own bedrooms but probably after they'd been weaned and weren't still breastfeeding.

tolerable · 23/04/2023 22:34

i did nightfeeds sit up in bed,baby was cradle/my side bed - helps to always have a jug\bottle of water n maybe a couple of biscuits(i hate eating in bedrooms but bf made me super thirsty.had a sorta low glo lamp on so nobody got "disturbed" as such. I genuinely never even attempted lie down feeds and a close friend literally smother her babe co sleeping weeks before ds born. so i just avoided it .also my ds1 only fed with his head face one direction-as he got bigger that required his body sorta propt up by pillows on left feed. ...so bed easier

PippaF2 · 23/04/2023 22:35

Does your question relate to risk?

Falling asleep while feeding was one of my biggest fears. I had a snuzpod, and I'd feed in bed but I'd sit right up. I didn't lay down.

I think you need to just think through your safe sleeping plan. Look at the lullaby trust guidance. It's pretty good and it talks about co sleeping safely.

Co sleeping in our bed was something I could never get comfortable with. I felt like having the snuzpod attached to our bed and me being face to face was enough. I didn't need to have them in bed with me. But I didn't have an horrendous sleeper....so my experience could be very different to someone else's.

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