Hen do next week and early pregnancy

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Hi all!

So as you can see I’m in a bit of a situation. Just found out I’m pregnant yesterday and 5 weeks along, and have a hen do abroad which my friends have been planning for a long time. I feel absolutely terrible and so guilty. Obviously it isn’t all about drinking but one of the days I know we have wine tasting and I’m a very keen wine drinker so it’s been all planned for me.

I feel dreadful and have no idea what to do, who to tell and how to get through it. I know I’ll still have a great time, but I feel I’ve let them down! There will be 16 of us.

Anyone had a similar experience? Did you tell them all on the hen do? How did you manage it?

**Just to caveat this, we have been trying for 2 months previous to this cycle. This cycle we only DTD once and were supposed to pull out but got carried away. And low and behold, here we are. So wasn’t as much planned as it was sheer luck.

I would tell them that there’s a chance you could be pregnant but it’s too early to say, so you’re not going to drink to be on the safe side.

@Hazelnuttella Thank you! Yes this is what I’m thinking, to just be brutally honest rather than make something up (which no one believes anyway)

Rereading my post and just to clarify, it is my hen do so not just any old hen do.

I would just be honest and just tell them . No point getting stressed trying to hide it . I guess the wine tasting experience has all been paid for so can't be changed , but maybe they have alternative drinks alcohol free you can taste so you at least can get involved a bit and use a wine glass ? ? Tricky one! X

Definitely just tell them, if you make excuses they’ll either guess or think you’re not enjoying yourself. I bet they’d all be so excited for you.

Thanks so much everyone for your responses! I met my MoH today and told her and she is very confident about keeping it a secret and that if we have a troop of bridesmaids in the know, they’ll be able to scheme and swap drinks/keep me filled on non alcoholic wines and can just spit and not swallow (lol) at the vineyard.

we’ll see! Hoping to get a private scan before I go just to confirm it is viable if I can too.

I had this when I was pregnant with my first.. my best friends hen party in Portugal at 8wks.
I told a few people before I went & did the drink swapping etc for the first day. The 2nd day I told a few more. Then as we entered a bar that night I requested a non alcoholic drink, the bar man shouted out.. here's the non alcoholic one & handed it to me, and everyone looked around.
I wasn't overly bothered everyone found out, the novelty of drink swapping & my little secret had worn off. It meant I could easily leave early & have a rest when needed. And that I could stop drowning myself in non alcoholic drinks !

It has made me rethink any invite I get since when I've been pregnant. Being around people drinking a lot was not overly fun!