Lifting DC1 when pregnant

[Wineisgreat]

Has anyone had any problems from lifting their first child? She's nearly 4 and sometimes subject to tantrums. My preference would be for DP to lift her but he's at work sometimes etc.

I'm now being blamed by him for having lifted her when she was tantruming in a carpark by the park/swings. He's told me to promise not to lift her again which I won't do because that's just impractical when there are times that I will be alone with her.

If you physically can do it, it’s fine.

Lifted my eldest (and concrete fence posts during lockdown 😂). No problems whatsoever.

Dp will have to make sure you are never left alone with your own children then won't he? Absolutely ridiculous.

Didn't have any problems lifting my children when pregnant.

I’m 37 weeks and lift DD who is 3.5 when I need to. It’s inevitable.

The problem with lifting is that it could cause YOU an injury (likely pelvic floor problems). It's not a risk to the baby.

Just remember to brace your pelvic floor and core (as much as you can).

I presume your DH's concern for you lifting things extends to shopping, the vacuum, doing the cleaning etc too?

My older DC was nearly 4 and quite big and I still lifted her as and when necessary, though I tried to minimize it toward the end because it was uncomfortable. I would think most people who have more than one child just have to get on with it. Has your midwife or doctor advised you not to?

I haven't even considered not lifting DD? I'm 28weeks and she likes to be carried everywhere, I still carry her on my back in the carrier. I didn't know we weren't supposed to

No, I haven't seen the midwife yet - early pregnany. 🙂

Then he's being absolutely ridiculous of course you can lift her! What's it going to do!

@Photosymphysis this made me lol! 😂

He’s being pretty unrealistic expecting you not to carry or pick up your older child. How does he think any other mother copes, really? Particularly single mums, or mums who’s partners work away etc. obviously toward the end it gets more difficult but that’s not so much risk to baby as it is risk to you! Hurting your back, pelvic floor strain etc.
If it helps, I’m a farmer, plenty of v heavy lifting etc, and was still working as normal pretty much mu
whole pregnancy. So far so good with now-toddler DC, the whirlwind.

I used to carry my 3.5 year old DD who was tall for her age- 20kg down the stairs in the night back to her bed until I was 38 weeks pregnant. Just braced the pelvic floor- wasn't ideal but DH worked away and some nights she refused to walk down and it wasn't worth the battle!

When I was pregnant with DS2 I often used to carry 3.5 yo DS1 to nursery (10 minute walk) until the day I gave birth. Never would have occurred to me not to.

Does he mean he doesn't want you to lift her up when she is having a tantrum, or at all? Because I don't think a 4 year old is going to be particularly understanding of you not wanting to pick her up for a cuddle and it sounds pretty cruel.

I've just read that you're early on in your pregnancy so he really is being utterly ridiculous!!

Until my exhaustion really kicked in I was still going to the gym and lifting weights (I'm by no means a fitness buff btw but I did a little). I'm 39 weeks now with a 5yr old and occasionally pick him up (to let him see something high up or to help him get on things at the park etc).

As someone else has said, it's about injury to yourself so when your pregnancy progresses and your muscles loosen to prepare for baby you'll just need to be extra careful as you can more easily hurt yourself by pulling a muscle etc.

Its just not realistic to avoid ALL heavy lifting. If that's the case though, I hope he does all the supermarket shopping and carrying of bags from now on!!

I have 4 children, never had an issue lifting any of them when pregnant.

He is being ridiculous. I carried 2.5yo DD up until the day I was induced!

I lifted all of my younger ones when pregnant with the next. I think everyone does?

Thank you all, this is as I suspected. He's so ridiculously overprotective to the point of impracticality. Means well but pisses me off in the process!

Someone tried to tell I shouldn't pick up my just walking 14 month old.

My midwife confirmed that carrying on lifting things you carried prepregnancy was fine as long as you felt fine. It was stuff that you weren't used to picking up that could the problem.

Jesus, he's going to drive you nuts!!

Is he worried about you or the baby?

it sounds like his attitude needs adjusting. If something is worrying him he needs to talk to you, not accuse you and try to make you promise to do it his way.

How was he when you were pregnant with DD & what's he been like trying to lay down the law about stuff with her?

..and yes, you don't stop having a small child when you're pregnant!! They still need everything they needed prior to you conceiving their sibling. He's setting her up to be anti the baby already!

When pregnant with DC2 I ended up having emergency surgery for an umbilical hernia which I was told was due to carrying DC1.

All turned out ok and I carried DC2 when expecting DC3. It's what you do.