Baby gender rant

[Moni81]

Maybe I'm just overreacting but had my 20 weeks scan yesterday and found out we are having girl, we already have 2 young teenage daughters. It was surprise pregnancy and I wasn't particularly focused on having specific gender. In fact I was leaning towards girl as my daughters will be more keen to help looking after baby sister and that was their preference too. Then friend of mine asked me today about scan and gender. When I told her it's girl, she commented in way that shame there is no son for my partner so at least he can look forward to male grandkids maybe. When I told her I wanted girl etc she was still on and on about having boy. Honestly I was so close to being rude and telling her if I had son like hers I wish he was never born....luckily I didn't, but it really touched my nerve. Normally family members congratulated me that everything went well and nice that my girls will have baby sister. Just cut it short and be pleasant, there is no need for comments like that. Anyway I know I just should ignore her, when my daughter joined air cadets, she commented shame that my daughters wear glasses as they can't be pilots....so bizarre, like if she joined cadets to be pilot🤔 Why do people feel need to add their opinion when it's clearly not relevant or do it in such inappropriate manner.

Your friend is just stupid and rude. Congratulations on your baby, that is excellent news.

People make stupid comments whatever you have or do sadly. I had boy twins one died and when I had their little brother people said to me ' aww didn't you want a girl ' no i didn't I wanted a baby that made it home. I'm sorry you had to listen to that from your friend very fustrating.

She was rude. However, you wrote Honestly I was so close to being rude and telling her if I had son like hers I wish he was never born. This is just disgusting and if I’m honest makes you sound like a truly vile person. I think it’s time for you to consider how you can become a better person as you are responsible for shaping three children.

Hi @Moni81 not nice at all for your friend to make those comments.
Ignore her and enjoy your pregnancy yay! 💕

What @Fairydustandsparklylights said. You said some harsh words there op.

I know you didnt say them to her before I get pounced on, I meant thought / said on here. Just awful.

Well, people have all sorts of thoughts and everyone judge in their own way. The difference is knowing when to keep your mouth shut and no I didn't really think he was never born, however she was so rude that I was so close to hurt her back in this way. I think it's perfectly human reaction and she knew what she was doing. It's not first time she said weird stuff like that, I tend to ignore it, because I know often people say things out of jealousy or to feel better about themselves, to get out their frustrations or shortcomings. I'm not that close friend with her, it's mainly kids at the same school and same country of origin that keep us in touch.

Once again, you’ve have shown your true character with this sentence she was so rude that I was so close to hurt her back in this way. I think it's perfectly human reaction. You completely lose any moral high ground with these statements. The woman was rude, I agree. When I was pregnant with ds2, people would make comments like oh that’s such a shame when I said I was having a second son. It was infuriating! However, you think that you deserve a well done for not saying you would wish your child was never born if he was like hers. That is not a perfectly human reaction. It’s a disgusting one. The fact that you think it’s comparable to what she said to you shows your character. You don’t deserve applause for holding back being vile to another human. I agree she was rude, however, you are worse.

@Fairydustandsparklylights oh really and you are morality judge because when people anger you, you have such pure thoughts that take you straight up to Heaven. Please give me a break, because your comment just make me laugh lol

@Fairydustandsparklylights

God you sound exhausting, calm down love.

It's perfectly normal for people to think inappropriate stuff sometimes, especially when their buttons are being pushed.

@inky1991 Oh, so you also look at friends children and think that you would prefer yours to be dead than like theirs? How charming!