Looking for advice on scans

[Unicorn2023]

Two scans two weeks apart both measuring 6 weeks and I should be ten weeks but there has been change in that two weeks being a fetal pole measuring 4mm but no heartbeat does anyone know anything about scans or had this happen to them and it’s been positive? I would be four weeks out which I know isn’t good! But because there is a change I have to go back in a week but they said it’s not looking good? 😢

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Hey,

Just wondering how things turned out for you? I’m going through the same thing. Went in for a scan at 8 weeks but I’m measuring less than 6w. I have to wait two weeks now to be re-scanned. I know about MMCs but I had no idea there was so much delay and waiting for confirmation/ rescans. It’s being in limbo that’s the worst thing for me.

@Kausi Hey,

I had a MMC 😢 unfortunately though I had to go into hospital Friday for one tablet and back the Monday and got another 10 and still nothing made me miscarry so I had to have surgery on Wednesday this week 💔 what was visible on your scan? They said to me that it is possible to be two weeks behind and can catch up at my first scan. I know it’s a joke I new at my second scan it wasn’t good but because it had changed they said it would have been an abortion if they had just called it there and then but the weeks go past so slowly surely with the equipment we have these days they would know sooner! Sorry this is happening to you 😢💔 xx

I’m so sorry to hear this, it’s heartbreaking and the waiting must have been so difficult.

I have a gestational sac (18mm) and embryo with fetal pole measuring 2.4mm which is 5w+1 but there was no heartbeat. I’m 95% sure on my dates as we only had sex once that month and I got a positive result 3.5 weeks after last period and I have short cycles. Even if I ovulated late and implanted late that still doesn’t account for the 3 weeks that are out.

The nurse told me I have to stay positive for the next two weeks and seemed concerned about how upset I was (I just know that it’s not a good outcome).

Thanks for replying, it’s such a difficult thing to go through. Take care of yourself x

@Kausi I was the same I new I wasn’t two weeks out at my first scan because I was using ovulation sticks and my test was positive on day one of my missed period but have seen loads of positive stories on here from people that have been in our situation and went back and they seen a heartbeat 🤞🏻 the nurses were the same with me asked why I was so upset it’s not All lost it might be ok even after the second scan still measuring 6 weeks when I should have been 11 🤦🏼‍♀️I’m sending you loads of love strength and hugs the wait is so hard 🤗♥️🫶🏻 please let me know how you get on I have everything crossed for you 🤞🏻 thank you so much I have a lot of support which helps x

Thank you so much 🙏. I’ll let you know how I get on. It’s such a weird time waiting, my emotions are all over the place x

@Kausi It really is I completely understand how you feel 🤗😢 Try and get some early nights even if it’s just watching Tv ( I watched desperate housewives that’s really good) try and rest I know easier said than done. take care and if you need someone to talk to I’m here 🤞🏻♥️🤗 x

@Unicorn2023 thanks so much for your kind message, it means a lot.

I’ve just had some bright red blood when I wipe so I think this is the start of the end. I was expecting it so hasn’t come as a huge shock, but is very sad non the less. I’m going to see how it develops and will call the EPU later.

This might be a daft question but I’m not sure what to expect, I was about to head into work (I work freelance) but I’m feeling I should stay put and see what happens.

@Kausi I’m so sorry 😢 even when your expecting it it’s still heartbreaking 💔Please stay home and make yourself a cup of tea and get your jammies on and relax the blood can be quite heavy and painful sorry I just want to warn you sending lots of love and strength 🤗♥️ x

Thanks for the advice! I‘ll put my feet up today x

@Kausi 🤗♥️ when you are ready phone EPU they will maybe get you in for a scan either today or tomorrow they will want to monitor you to make sure u are ok x

Morning @Kausi how are you today? X

Hey, had a scan this morning where they were able to confirm a missed miscarriage. It had grown a little but still behind and no heartbeat. It’s what I expected so didn’t come as shock, still very sad though. In a way i felt some relief in that I’m going to be able start moving on without having to wait the whole two weeks in limbo. I think we’re going to stop trying now, so that’s something I’m going to have to come to terms with too. Thanks for checking in, hope you’re doing ok. X

@Kausi I am so sorry 💔😢 give yourself some time to rest and come to terms with what’s happened because i kept saying the same as you. once it’s over and done with I will be fine and can move on but it hit me harder how empty I felt when it was done 😢 I’m not telling you this to make you feel worse because right now I know that’s not possible but just wish someone warned me 🤗 Please try not to give up this is my 5th miscarriage but first MMC and it never gets easier but this time I’ve asked them to test the genetics to see if it’s that causing it so I’m hoping it might be something simple 🤞🏻 I’m not sure how many you have had but maybe you can phone EPU and ask if you can get a sample if they would test yours they were quite good with me when I asked ♥️ xx

@Unicorn2023 thank you. You’re right, I know this is going to be a process. I’ve had 4 previous chemical pregnancies (since 2020) so technically this is also my 5th miscarriage. I turn 43 tomorrow so that’s one reason we think we’re going to stop, I don’t know if I can keep doing this when it ends in heartache, especially as my age is against me. We’re lucky to have our son and I have lots to look forward to this year, in a way another baby would have totally derailed certain plans (career wise), it was fully planned and wanted but highlighted just how hard life would have been again financially. It’s still so devastating though, especially when I’m faced with the fact that I’ll probably never have another and our son not having a sibling. I really wish you well for your future, thanks for the hand hold it’s been very comforting xx

@Kausi So sorry to hear you have had such an awful time it’s heartbreaking 💔 I’m 39 in two weeks and been trying for 5 years I have thought I would rather they just told me it was never going to happen so we could draw a line under it and move on because I agree if it keeps ending like this I would rather not have it at all 🤗 take the time to grieve and be kind to yourself I’m wishing you all the luck in the world with your career and time is a great healer as we both know ♥️ Happiest of birthdays tomorrow 🥳 May the rest of the year bring you happiness for you and your family 🥂🍾 You are more than welcome always here for a chat anytime 🙏🏻 Thank you for commenting on my post too it wasn’t the outcome either of us wanted but at least we had each other ♥️🤗

Thank you so much for your kind words@Unicorn2023 . Gosh, 5 years, that’s rough and I’m sorry to hear it. There’s still time but I totally understand about wishing we knew whether it really was going to happen or not.

Wishing you all the best for the future xx

@Kausi Thank you so much for your support it has really helped me ♥️ Hope you have a great day today Happy Birthday 🥳 ♥️🤗 ( well as good as you can) 🍾🥂 xx

So sorry. When the baby is that small they scan multiple times to make sure they are 100% sure. I went for a scan at 11+6. I was bleeding and the scan showed an empty collapsed sac measuring 6 weeks. They still wanted me to wait 2 weeks and be scanned again. Fortunately (if you can call it that) I miscarried naturally the next day. Even then when I was heamorrhaging all over the bed in a and e the gynaecologist was saying "I think you're having a miscarriage". With my second missed miscarriage it was a lot easier as the baby was measuring older. I was meant to be 12+5 and the baby was measuring 8+4 with the sac measuring 9 weeks. They could show me very clearly the heart with the four chambers and nothing moving. I had the operation at 13+2 which was the soonest they could fit me in.

@elliejjtiny So sorry you went through this it’s devastating 😢 luckily for me if you can say that I had to have it surgically removed as I wanted it tested being my 5th miscarriage so I’m just hoping I get some answers now.

sending you loads of strength and love 🤗♥️

Very sorry to hear this @elliejjtiny

Unfortunately I miscarried naturally on Friday, but I was caught out on the tube as I was on my way to pick up my son from school! I had to go into a Wetherspoons pub and call my neighbour to help with the pick up while I sorted myself out. Stupidly after my scan I went for a very long walk around London as I didn’t know what to do with myself after receiving the news. I had no idea it could happen so quickly and so violently! The nurse said I could take the weekend to enjoy my birthday and make a decision on what I wanted to do on Tuesday so I figured nothing would happen! It was pretty traumatic but I’ve only bled lightly since and it did mean I could then enjoy a nice day yesterday. Feel slightly beaten up today though and need a proper rest.

Thanks for the birthday wishes @Unicorn2023 despite everything I did have a very nice day!