2nd/3rd trimester and emotions!

[thelma57]

Hi all, looking for some chats as I’m having quite a hard time these past few weeks!

I’m 27 weeks with my first baby (my baby girl and I’m so so happy and excited to meet her) but I am really struggling with my sleep. I wake up every night for hours and can’t get back to sleep no matter what I do. I’m really uncomfortable in the evenings and have to go to bed early.

I’m overly emotional, everything stresses me out and I want to cry all the time. I feel like I’m freezing DH out cos I hate how I’m being (I also have zero sex drive).

I feel like the house is a mess and will never be ready (had some leaks etc recently we’re still getting on top of).

And on top of that I don’t have any family near me, my only sister never checks in, and my in laws are away. I feel so lonely.

Sorry to complain, but I suppose that’s another thing, everyone expects you to be happy all the time and when I try to explain my tiredness etc the ‘just wait until baby is here’ comments make me want to cry (again).

Anyone feel similar?

Don't worry everything you're feeling and experiencing is normal. Your body is doing something incredible and preparing you for the life change that is coming. You don't have to feel happy all the time, in fact it's pretty normal to feel uncomfortable and fed up of being pregnant in the 3rd trimester! Even in the 2nd trimester I wasn't sleeping and I always needed a break halfway up the stairs!!

Your house can't really be "ready" exactly (as an OCD person I struggled at first with how messy your house becomes with a baby 😅 but you kind of stop over-worrying about it) - as long as they have somewhere to sleep and something to keep them warm (as well as a healthy supply of nappies and wipes) you're good. I went OTT with preparation and didn't use half the stuff 😂 also when you get close to delivery you start nesting which is an overwhelming compulsion to clean everything and decorate everywhere

(PS congratulations & well done so far!! Being pregnant is HARD but you're close to the finish line now 🥳🥳)

Thank you so so much @tigger2022 I really needed to hear that today ❤️