Pregnancy after miscarriage

[Nicole888]

Hi

I’m just looking for some reassurance and positive stories ❤️

I found out that I had a silent miscarriage when I went for my 12 weeks scan; no signs at all, no bleeding and felt pregnant with exactly the same symptoms as I had previously with my little boy. When I had my scan, I was told that there was a sac that measured around 9 weeks but there was no baby 😔.

I had medical management of the miscarriage and I took the pills last Thursday. The pain has finally stopped and I am no longer bleeding (just a bit of brown spotting, sorry for TMI).

I was told to take a pregnancy test 3 weeks after taking the medical management pills and if it comes back negative then the miscarriage is complete. They advised waiting for one cycle / period to pass before trying again for the purposes of being able to date a figure pregnancy.

I am desperate to try again as soon as possible, after having a negative pregnancy test, and I don’t want to have to wait until after my next period.

Has anyone gotten pregnant straight away after miscarriage without having a period in between? Was everything okay with you and the baby? Or would anyone recommend waiting for that first period after miscarriage just for that extra bit of reassurance?

Thank you x

Hi @Nicole888

So so sorry for your loss ❣️I was in almost the exact same position in May last year, except at 9 weeks baby measured 6 weeks, sadly no heartbeat. First baby/ pregnancy so I was terrified I couldn’t carry a baby. I also had medical management and bled for about a week. I did have a scan with EPU to confirm nothing remained after the bleeding, and finally got a negative test about 2.5 weeks after the day I took the tablets.

I started tracking ovulation the day the bleeding stopped as I was desperate to be pregnant again. I ovulated on day 23 (counting the miscarriage as my ‘period’) which was later than I usually would. I very fortunately fell pregnant that time without having a period first and I am now sat night feeding my very hungry 5 week old baby. We are both absolutely fine, though the pregnancy was riddled with anxiety and in hindsight I wish I enjoyed my pregnancy more, I really didn’t make the most of it and now miss it so much.

I believe the only reason they advise you to wait for a period is due to dating, however because I was tracking ovulation I was comfortable I knew my rough dates (though they did push me forward 5 days so must have implanted quickly).

If you feel mentally ready I don’t believe there’s any reason not to try straight away, it’s definitely more of a mental challenge than a physical one as far as I understand. Wishing you all the best, it does get easier with time ♥️

Sorry you're in this situation.

Yes I got pregnant again with no period inbetween. She's 7 months old now.

So sorry for your loss, OP. I had almost the same happen to me right at the start of March 2022. My advice is try not to let the trying become all-consuming. We'd got pregnant straight away with the pregnancy we lost, and then it took us 6 months to get pregnant again (now 30 weeks). I wish I had been less stressed about conceiving again during that time, as it was a very dark time.

You don't need to wait for a period though.

Wishing you all the best!

I’m under a recurrent miscarriage clinic. The reason they advise you to wait for one cycle because your risk of miscarriage is higher if you conceive straight away. This is because your uterus needs time to recover - the pregnancy leaves a wound where it was attached and this needs to heal, also the uterus lining is thinner the first cycle after a miscarriage and this means that it is less hospitable and less supportive for a new pregnancy. I understand why you don’t want to wait (been there myself!) but it’s got more chance of being successful if you do.

If you ask on here you will get a range of people telling you they conceived immediately and it either went well or it ended in miscarriage, but the information above is the medical reasoning behind this advice to wait.

For those who think it’s just to make dating the pregnancy easier - it’s not.

@Littlegoth thank you, apologies for the misinformation in that case, that’s what the gynaecologist at my EPU told me

@Cdoc No need to apologise.I didn’t mean to make it a directed comment, lots of people think it’s about dating rather than recovery.

There’s a big knowledge gap for doctors even in fields you would think were related, like gynaecology at an EPU, and miscarriage specialism. The see miscarriages there of course but it’s usually not their specialty. 3 out of 4 obstetric consultants I saw didn’t know anything about APS (a rare illness but a not unusual cause of recurrent miscarriage) and one had never even heard of it - the hospital I am under is the main recurrent miscarriage clinic in a 40 mile radius so again that lack of knowledge was very surprising - surely they must have come across other patients with it.

@Littlegoth god that’s actually really worrying, that they hadn’t even heard of that illness. But I suppose like you say they see the cases they see but aren’t specialist in them. It’s similar in a way to a lot of the gynaecologists I saw when being investigated for endometriosis, sadly a lot of them were quite misinformed and it can be quite damaging with the information they provide to try and ‘cure’ things that don’t have a cure.

I hope you’ve managed to find one that is genuinely well trained and informed in recurrent miscarriage? Otherwise how much harder it must make a situation that’s already beyond difficult for you

Thank you for all your positive stories ❤️Congratulations on your little ones @Cdoc @shakeitoffsis and congratulations on your pregnancy @Emilia35 hope it all goes well for you 🙏🏼.

@Littlegoth thank you for that information, definitely food for thought when planning to try again.

And I’m so so sorry for your previous losses, it’s such a horrible time 💔 x

I too had a mmc in Oct but at an early scan showed didn’t get past 6 weeks. I had a D&C 4th Nov after waiting weeks for it to happen naturally. So sorry for your loss. I’m over 40 so was worried about waiting but after one period, I am 12.5 weeks now and had two healthy scans… hopefully you will be in the same boat soon x

I am so sorry to hear about your loss OP.

I had a MC on Sunday at 6 weeks and I am waiting to hear back similar, the thought of waiting for a cycle is awful. I know it's only a month but it will feel like an eternity. Fingers crossed things go better for you next time x

I had a miscarriage in December and got pregnant immediately afterwards without having a period I’m currently 13wks 5days with my rainbow baby. The midwife said that having a period first makes it easier for them to date the pregnancy I was really concerned that they’d think I was really awkward but they just dated mine from the date of my miscarriage and said the worst they could do was date me a week or two behind it turns out I was dated about 10days behind but they were able to confirm everything at my 12wk scan. I hope everything works out for you and that you get your rainbow baby very soon.

Hi OP.

Im so sorry for your loss 💐

I had a miscarriage the end of May 2021. By early July I was pregnant again.

for my mental health I’m glad I had at least 1 period in between to grieve.

My rainbow girl is now 1, and I’m expecting another!

wishing you all the luck in the world x