Ok so… this is my 2nd pregnancy, I lost the heartbeat at 8-9 weeks in august last year (missed miscarriage with a DNC).
I have PCOS which makes me irregular with ovulation.
according to first day of my last period I’m 8 weeks. They’ve been scanning me regularly and to be fair have measured short by approx a week and a half every time.
theubscanned me yesterday and I’m measuring 6.5 weeks and not 8 weeks - not a HUGE drama because my dates have been out due to my PCOS however, heartbeat was a little slow.
sonograper wasn’t too worried and said it may just be because it hasn’t developed far enough yet and these precious weeks change so much and it’s so early to prefect and judge but to come back in 2 weeks.
then I went into a room with the EPAU nurse …. She’d already decided before she sat down that this was a miscarriage situation!!
she said to be measuring smaller than my estimated dates AND to have a slow heart rate it’s unlikely to end well! - surely if I’m only 6 weeks so heart rate is going to be slower than expected at 8 weeks?! Surely a trained EPAU nurse would be experienced with a woman with PCOS and the unpredictability of her dates or ovulation and conception?
I walked out of the scan thinking “oh ok, I’m just 6.5 weeks, no problem” but I then walked out of the nurses office thinking “I’ve lost another baby and it’s done”
obviously at this point, the baby is there with a heartbeat, albeit maybe little slow.
just not quite sure how to feel really? Thinking of having a private scan in a few days (the NHS is just some dehumanised and unempathetuc!). At least we’ll know if it’s sped up, slowed more or gone completely and get a better assessment of the size and health?
one side of me is accepting that I’ve lost another baby. But the other wise of me says you’re just earlier than you thought and all is fine!!
im exhausted!!!
anyone else had this and behave a positive outcome?! Friends have told me of positives but I guess I just need some hope and light!!
thanks you xx