Anxiety really high

[Adele8]

Hey!
i recently found out I am pregnant for the first time. I am 30
we were ttc after recently deciding it was the natural next step for us and it felt right. DP is really excited and wants this so badly. I know I want it too but we had told ourselves that it would most likely take a few months at least but it happened after the first month.
It’s now all become real and my anxiety is through the roof at weather I’ll be able to cope, whether its the right thing, scared of the massive change it will bring (I’m not great with change). I have always struggled with anxiety badly and now I am anxious all the time, struggling to talk about the fact I am pregnant. DP is being amazing and supporting me in every way he can.
we are financially stable, have a big enough house and have been together almost 9 years and are engaged.
I just wanted to know if this is normal to be anxious? I feel like all I should feel is excitement, I am hoping that comes with time!
I think I am only about 5 weeks, where I am I have to self refer for maternity so I might have to wait up to 10 days to get an initial appointment, so I also feel a little bit in limbo.
I had some cramping that felt like trapped wind for a few days other than that physically I feel absolutely normal, which is throwing me off even more. Sometimes I am wondering whether I am even pregnant or not! (Had 5 positive test results).
Just looking for some advice from people in the same boat or that have been here before. Thank you!

Morning lovely! Yes, it is completely normal! It's a pretty massive life change isn't it and even when it's something very much wanted, the enormity of the reality of it definitely hits once you get those positive tests! As the woman in particular it's the realisation of what your body will be doing etc and it can be a bit daunting!

I'm currently pregnant with my second and even though I've been through it once before, there are still aspects of it causing some worry again etc!

What I would say from experience of expecting my first is that you evolve with your pregnancy. It's not like someone is giving you a newborn tomorrow and your whole life changes. You have months to slowly adapt and eventually to feel/see little one growing and moving and you start picturing life with them and you start adapting to your new role and getting excited about it. You sound like you have a lovely supportive partner which also helps.

Symptoms-wise, things often ramp up around the 6wk mark, although some people never get much. Both my pregnancies have been pretty easy in that regard. Every pregnancy is different so try not to compare or worry too much.

Finally, it is also possible to struggle more with MH issues while pregnant and there is brilliant access to support (pregnant women get fast-tracked access to help with MH) so if things ever feel like they're getting too much, definitely let your midwife know and you could be referred for extra help to get you through. There is no shame in getting all the help you can.

Wishing you all the best! 🥰

@SnookyPook what a lovely reply summed up so nicely 🤍✨

@Adele8 I’d just like to also add, it’s completely normal OP. We went through the mill to get pregnant, bank loans, and a round of IVF later and then I STILL felt anxious as soon as I found out. Anxious it was all going to go ok, anxious about oh god we’re really going to have a baby. Emotions are high when you’re pregnant, make sure if you are feeling that way consistently you talk to someone. It’ll really help, you’ll never be alone in your thoughts.

I’m now 16+4 and beyond excited. I felt like once I knew that out baby was ok and safe, it takes away any of those other fears. Motherhood will be hard but the most rewarding too x