Second scan not looking hopeful 💔

[Unicorn2023]

Long story here so I’m sorry I’m advance.
found out I was pregnant on the 1st of March and had a bleed so went for an early scan where I should have been 8 weeks but only measured 6 with no fetal pole fast forward two weeks I had another scan today still measuring 6 weeks but with fetal pole and is 4mm but no heart beat. The midwife said it’s not looking positive but thought why not torture myself some more and ask on here has anyone been through this? Need to wait another week until they make a decision although I know the outcome 😭

I found out I was pregnant 6th March had an early scan at the hospitol they struggled to find anything people in and out the room, eventually found something said I was 3-4 weeks which I new wasn't possible giving at this point I had none I was pregnant for 4 weeks left with no answers booked a private scan where she struggled at first but told me I have a tilted uterus which makes it harder to see she eventully found baby which was measuring right for 7 weeks and seen its little heartbeat it was a nightmere getting measurements if there is now a fetal pole and wasn't last time a would think that's a good thing it has progressed from the first time you was there try not worry sometimes it's hard to pick up a heartbeat xx

@Emmalu15 Thank you so much for your reply it has given me some hope ♥️ just need to pray for a miracle. The woman was lovely but couldn’t give me any reassurance it will be ok I’m just worried because right now going by my LMP I should be 10 weeks but it is good I no have a fetal pole so clinging onto that 🤞🏻 congratulations on your pregnancy I’m so happy for you and glad you shared your experience with me it has really helped xx

So it's still actually growing! I'm wondering if you ovulated twice and this is the second ovulation perhaps?! Just a guess but wishing you hope and best of luck

@custardbear it seems to be so that’s a positive but she didn’t look hopeful at all just said just try to keep positive but I never actually thought of that. I’ve googled the life out of every possibility so I will have a look thank you for your reply ♥️

Hi OP I'm sorry this might not be the story you want to hear but I had similar in 2021. Found out I was pregnant at 4 weeks (missed period and tested). Had brown discharge a week later which was how a previous miscarriage started. Had a scan the following week showing a sac but no fetal pole. Returned a week later, there was growth and a pole but no heartbeat, returned a week later and there was a heartbeat but by now I was three (maybe four?) Weeks out by my dates. Returned the following week and there was some growth and a sluggish heartbeat. I was very frank and matter of fact throughout as that's just my personality- I hope for the best but want the facts not false hope. I asked the midwife if this pregnancy was going to make it or if it was a very sick baby. She told me it was a very sick baby. I returned the following week and the heart had stopped. It took six weeks from the discharge to the final scan then another week for surgical management.

I know that's a horrible story and I really hope you have a different outcome. I took comfort from the fact that it had become very clear that something was very wrong with that pregnancy and I'm glad that I didn't get to a later stage and potentially have to make difficult decisions about TFMR or quality of life.

Look after yourself OP, I hope that you have a better outcome than I did

@Onebabyandamadcat I’m so sorry this happened to you 😢💔 I really appreciate you replying and being so honest. She told me today it was 50/50 two weeks ago and could go either way but today said it looked the more negative 50% and I said well I should be ten weeks by now and still showing 6 weeks so it really isn’t good at all is it and she said no I’m sorry it’s not and I’m glad she was honest because I would rather set myself up for heartbreak just now than think it was going to be ok and it’s not. It sounds bad but part of me wanted to say just end it just now because I know it’s not good and I can’t cope waiting another week to go back and be heartbroken 💔 all over again. I really hope you are doing ok sending you lots of love and hugs ♥️🤗

Im so sorry you're going through this. I have had three miscarriages so know the feeling well and Im pretty clued on whats normal and whats not. I preferred brutal honesty but even when I had it still had glimmers of hope which is completely normal for you to have. To be brutally honest it looks like you are having a missed miscarriage. Its virtually impossible for there to be no significant growth or heartbeat at this point, one of my miscarriages was similar, I was measuring a week and a half behind my dates which I was 99% sure of but because the fetus had a good heartbeat they told me everything was fine even though I knew it wasn't. I started bleeding about two weeks later and miscarried naturally. You may miscarry before your next scan or when you have your next scan they may suggest for you to wait to miscarry naturally or take medication. It really is a cruel experience and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I think the pain of waiting and being left in limbo is just as bad, sending you love and strength for the next couple of weeks 💕

@Cindy974 I’m so sorry you have went though this it’s absolutely devastating 😢♥️ it never gets easier this will be my 5th miscarriage with no living children it’s so unfair. I appreciate your honesty I really do I think after the bleed and my symptoms disappearing at the first scan I new it wasn’t looking good but as you say clinger to some sort of hope that it might be ok because when you read some people don’t see a heartbeat at 6 weeks, bleed or measure two weeks behind and it can be normal you fool your brain into thinking it will be ok but deep down you know. I know when I ovulated so there is no way I’m only measuring 6 weeks. I hope I miscarry naturally as I hate the thought of medical management but my body seems to be clinging to this for some reason 😢 thank you so much sending lots and love and hugs to you one day it will work out for us ♥️🤗

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Hope you're ok @Unicorn2023

@custardbear I’m doing ok babe just really angry at life how are you? ♥️

Thank you @Unicorn2023 I was exactly the same - the limbo was the hardest part. I really hope you are the one who beats the odds but if not I hope you're put out of your misery sooner rather than later.

I'm doing really well - I had a wee girl three months ago, fell pregnant four months after that miscarriage and while it was the most stressful time I think I've ever experienced the midwives were amazing and did everything they could to help reassure me and hold my hand through the nine months. I hope that news doesn't upset you - I'm telling you because at the time I really didn't know if I could go through it again or if I would ever have a successful pregnancy again. But I did. And I'm ok, so is DD. The fact that this awful thing is happening to you does not mean it would happen again if you wanted to try.

Keeping you in my thoughts

@Onebabyandamadcat I honestly don’t hold out much hope but I really appreciate you saying that ♥️ the midwife’s are so nice I don’t know how they do there job I would be crying with every person but they are so nice and caring and actually make something tragic seem not to bad. I’m so happy for you congratulations after what you went through you deserve every second of it 🥹 it honestly doesn’t make me sad it gives me hope that’s one day it could actually work out ok for me and that makes me smile. Thank you so much for your honesty and ur kind words it means a lot ♥️🤗

Hi OP
I’m waiting on a scan too without a good looking prognosis
it would be the 5th miscarriage for me if it is that, I just had a mc in feb also. Should be 9 weeks but was measuring behind at all scans - my last scan showed something a couple weeks out but because it had grown from the time before they just said return in two weeks. I’ve had little bits of bleeding and a loss of symptoms before my last scan, which showed it was small with a large yolk sac, and a thing called a chorionic bump which is associated with poor prognosis. I’be had a little bit more bleeding now and am on progesterone pessaries but I’m rather dreading the next scan I think it’s almost inevitable it will not be alright. The heart rate was low, 80something, and in my recent mc it was 90 two days before I lost it.
I’m sorry I have no useful contribution but I’m hoping for the best for you, the waiting and dragging it out is awful isn’t it

@worryingalot when is you next scan? It will be my 5th too it never gets easier you just think that one of these times it will be different 😢 what are they saying about you bleed? I’m on the pesseries to but only started them once I had a bleed at 8 weeks well 6 like they measured can’t help thinking if I took them from when I got my positive test it might have been ok but I doubt it I just can’t seem to carry children for some reason. I’m so sorry this is happening to you it really is the worst thing ever especially when everyone seems to be pregnant it hurts that we never get past a certain week. I really hope everything goes ok for you sending u all the luck and love in the world ♥️

Ah thank you likewise
I also only started them quite late when I’d had a bleed , so less than two weeks ago. The scan is on Monday. I haven’t contacted them again about the later bleed due to strikes etc I assumed they would be mostly closed this week. I hate waiting I asked if I could come back in one week and I was told no it has to be two to be sure 🤦‍♀️ I’ve been there so many times this year since January.
I have a retroverted uterus etc but I don’t think it would make them miscount a heartbeat etc. The sac looked irregular from the start too. Hate the not knowing. I’ve only had a little bit more bleeding but I’m worried that’s just because of the pessaries and actually it will be a mmc possibly. Trying to get myself ready to hear the news ( but can’t help trying to disprove myself on the internet!)

@worryingalot i’m the same just two weeks ago I started taking mine and I just wish I had know before I started the bleed this could help 😢 I would phone them as soon as you can because they should prioritise you because you are bleeding I know it’s not heavy but you just want to know and put ur mind at ease it’s really stressful and u can’t even have a wine or anything to settle your nerves. Oh the internet has been my worst enemy because I fool myself into thinking it’s ok because it happened to someone else and they were fine just to have some hope and then it all comes crashing down I know exactly how you feel xx

I don’t think they usually give you the pessaries before a bleed unless you have fertility treatment or are under a clinic or specialist, so they wouldn’t have given it to you any earlier (PRISM trial). My GP hasn’t been at all helpful with any of it but I’m hoping they’d refer me to a recurrent miscarriage clinic if this turns out to be another miscarriage.
I am trying to watch a film but can’t stop googling things to try to convince myself it may still have a chance. Arhhh.
I will call them Saturday morning if it carries on when I think they’ll be open again. The extra days of not knowing are driving me a bit nuts (also keep peeing on tests wondering if it’s got fainter!) completely useless of me

@worryingalot I have had IVF and got the cyclogest when I went through that but I didn’t read into them to find out what they did just trusted they new what they were doing and took them. If I had I might have realised if I took them it might have been ok because I had some left from last year when it didn’t work again this was my second cycle and I got a positive test but then started bleeding heavy so new it was over. I took a year out trying after my partner skin cancer and just tried to enjoy life when I got pregnant on my own this time felt different and I thought this is it our little miracle baby 🙏🏻 when the midwife spoke to me she did say if it’s a missed miscarriage they would do tests this time to see if it shows any reason why this keeps happening so they definitely should do the same with you I would push for them to do it don’t take no for an answer ♥️ I keep taking tests too and mine are getting lighter if yours are staying dark that’s really positive it’s not useless if it helps calm ur nerves. Please phone on Saturday or phone a&e and ask there advice they were really helpful when I phoned i’m not sure where u are from but I got a number for the midwife’s they are only open Monday to Friday but triage are open 24/7. I’m the same can’t concentrate on anything at all just Google constantly it’s driving me insane x