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What would you do?

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Louise2732 · 09/04/2023 03:56

DH and i been together 8 years. He has 3 children the youngest 4 being the one we share together. The older 2 from a previous who are with us every sunday and monday.
Ive just found out im pregnant... he has gone mad... saying things like " i dont want another, were not ready...i already have 3, i cant do a 4th. Ill be miserable" etc. For me ive always wanted another. Ill be completely done with 2. My heads completely amess. Im worried if i get an abortion ill resent him and we.l end up splitting up. And ill hate myself. Ive only got 1 child technically. I just need help 😪 xxxxx

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IsolatedWilderness · 09/04/2023 04:09

From what you've written, you want this baby. I'd have it then.

Blondie1024 · 09/04/2023 08:53

If he didn't want another then why hasn't he done something about it and got the snip? It takes two people to get pregnant.
All that aside think about what you want yourself. If you want this baby then have it. Your less likely to regret having the baby then not having it.
I'm sorry your husband is being so unsupportive. It must be a very confusing time for you. X

romdowa · 09/04/2023 09:09

If you want the baby then have it. Either way this relationship is kind of over isn't it. If you abort then you'll just resent him and If you keep the baby then he could walk or there's a chance that he could change his mind. So take him and his feelings out of the equation. This is your body , your choice. You sound like you want a second child and would probably regret an abortion

violetskypurple · 09/04/2023 09:11

It sounds like you want this baby so keep it. If he didn't want a fourth he should've used protection

pbdr · 09/04/2023 09:14

Having an abortion that you don't want because someone else thinks you should is never the right decision. It won't salvage your relationship, it will just make you resent him. If you want the baby then keep it, but start planning how you would manage on your own if your relationship does break down.

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 09/04/2023 09:17

The thing is, the chances are this relationship is over anyway:

you have the baby that he doesn’t want, he resents you and he leaves
you have an abortion you don’t want, you resent him and you leave.

so I would accept that it’s probably game over and then decide what you want to do based on that. And if you want to have the baby, have the baby.

EL8888 · 09/04/2023 09:34

Blondie1024 · 09/04/2023 08:53

If he didn't want another then why hasn't he done something about it and got the snip? It takes two people to get pregnant.
All that aside think about what you want yourself. If you want this baby then have it. Your less likely to regret having the baby then not having it.
I'm sorry your husband is being so unsupportive. It must be a very confusing time for you. X

All this. Why did he get a vasectomy if he feels that strongly?

EL8888 · 09/04/2023 09:35

Sorry meant to write “why didn’t he”

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