So I've come here for an unbiased opinion although I'm 99% sure I know what everyone will say.. I guess it's just hearing it from an outside perspective.
My partner and I are expecting a baby I'm 7 months pregnant. When I first found out I was pregnant he started drinking heavily and faking drugs. To the point he would pretend to be in work and didn't come home one night. I drove around till 3 In the morning looking for him and found him in some random party out of his head.
I packed his things told him to leave. He begged and promised me he was struggling and he would stop drinking and join AA. Promised me the sun moon and stars. Once he joined AA I let him come back. However 1 month later he changed his shifts and said he couldn't go anymore.
That's how my pregnancy started. Since then I've lost my job. My dad's started pallative care. I've been diagnosed with everything possible during the pregnant ( liver disease, gestational diabetes, ecoli ) and now I'm at high risk for pre eclampsia so I have been really struggling with my mental health and under the MH team.
Lately I've noticed my partner has been snappy and moody. He's been drinking a lot and pretending he hasn't. Taking coke and saying he isn't but I can tell. Basically gaslighting me in every single way possible. Didn't even go to work one day this week.
I messaged him telling him to stop gaslighting me and I can't handle it while I'm trying to keep calm with everything else going on and today on my birthday he went and did it again.
Told me he would be home early. Kept pushing it back later and later eventually rang him. He didn't answer the phone for the first 4 times then on the 5th he was out.of breath and I could tell he had ran back to his van and was lying. He was shouting and screaming at me that I'm disgusting for not believing him. Asked him to turn the camera around and he wasn't on a building site then said he walked 10 mins back to the van for a break. I knew the road looks identical.to a pub near his work mates houses. I knew he was lying so asked him to send me his location he said she would then put the phone down. Never replied and never came home.
I'm sick of it. I know deep down in my heart he's drinking again and taking cocaine and lying to me but the gaslighting is getting into my head. He owes me money. I'm so down and depressed I have no family around me but I do have friends.
Am I losing my marbles and being too strict with him or is it time for me to move away. I can't sleep or eat although I'm trying to cor the diabetes. I'm worried about my dad, my finances, the baby and I just can't deal with him.
My friends are sick of him doing this to me. They hate him. But I'm terrified of being on my own and going into labour. I'm so scared and anxious.
Any advice would be great