5+2 for first pregnancy (IVF)

[IVFfirsttimer91]

Hi all,
Im currently in the very early stages of my first pregnancy - we did IVF and by some miracle we got a positive result on the first try. Problem is, I’m now terrified it’s going to go wrong. My partner is unable to have children so we used donor sperm and my eggs, and it’s been a hell of an emotional and financial rollercoaster to get to this stage.
I want to be able to relax and enjoy the fact that we are finally on the road to being parents, but I’m hyper analysing any cramp I get (even though it’s normal to get slight cramps at this stage) and I’m just feeling quite anxious overall. I don’t think it helps that I’m knackered and haven’t been sleeping well also.
I was just wondering how many other people felt like this? And at what stage they finally relaxed and started to enjoy being pregnant.
I’ve got my 6 week scan next Thursday, and I’m so excited, but also dreading it in case they give me bad news. I’ve not had any bleeding or anything to base this fear on, it’s just there and it’s constant.
Would love to hear from anyone whose felt similar, or also gone through IVF, as I feel like a bit of a crazy person at the moment.
Thanks!

Congratulations!! Im 24+4 with an IVF baby boy, and felt just like you in the early days. Unable to enjoy that bfp as first except for flashes of fierce joy that gave way quickly to worry. It was such a road of disappointment leading up to a great first IVF round (6 great quality blasts from 7 eggs and worked 1st frozen transfer) that we were just waiting for the bad news to drop. Spent way too much on private scans checking in on the bean in the early days! I still have worries and still say we aren't counting our chickens, but as time went on and we began passing milestones, it's gotten easier. Now I can feel him, and hubby can feel him kicking from the outside, it feels more real that he will actually arrive :)

I think anyone pregnant has worries though, even if they got pregnant easily. It's natural to worry about first scans, 12 week NIPT results, movement, placental location, symptoms! It's hard to tell where normal pregnancy worry ends and infertility struggle worry begins, it's so wrapped up together when you've had IVF. Good luck with first scan, try not to think of the negatives too much as chances are everything will be fine :)

I was concerned until 20 weeks when i could feel movements. Until then it just didnt feel real.

First of all, congratulations 🤍✨

I’m also pregnant 14+3 with our IVF miracle baby, after it also working first time. Which we were shocked and delighted at, we also spent about 13/14k on an access fertility package. Took out half for a loan, and used a credit card for meds - so I can appreciate the money woes! But that all disappears anyway.

I was anxious the entire time, wanted to be excited but didn’t want to “jinx” anything. I almost pretended I wasn’t really pregnant in those first weeks. I had my first scan at 8 weeks, after that wow I felt on could 9 - for about 3 days. Then I was worried again. All of my symptoms kept coming and going which worried me constantly. I was shocked to get to my dating scan (12 weeks) and see a wriggly little baby!!

It still doesnt feel “real” yet and as my scan was over a week ago, I’m anxious a little again. But it does get easier when you hit 12 weeks - kinda haha. It’s just the joys of motherhood, worrying forever!! I joined a couple of pregnancy threads on here which are great, but can also add to anxiety when people are full of symptoms and you have none!

Just try and keep yourself occupied 🤍

I haven’t gone through IVF but with all 3 of mine I have been really anxious something is going to go wrong. The first trimester is really hard as you just have to wait and hope everything is ok and there’s nothing you can do. It’s completely normal, I think most women feel it. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Thanks for the replies!!
It’s really nice to know that I’m not alone in this! Congratulations to everyone else expecting as well! I can’t wait for that 12 week scan when I can actually see our baby, then I might relax a bit 😂.
Thanks again everyone!

Hi,
I just wanted to say I am also 5+2 today, also petrified and anxious. I have an 8 year old daughter and then me and my husband were told we were unable to conceive naturally due to his morphology of his sperm. We decided to leave IVF, and just be happy with one. Which I eventually got my head around (although it did still make me sad but tried not to think about it too much). Because of this we weren’t careful/using contraception and randomly have now become pregnant. I am so anxious and worried , like you I have nothing to base it on no bleeding etc, but I’m also petrified 😂 but happy grateful I don’t know so many emotions.
Definitely think once the scan is done will feel more reassured and hope you will also! ❤️ xxxx

Our DS was a first round IVF miracle. I don't think I believed it until he was in my arms. Congratulations OP!

Thanks everyone! I feel reassured that the anxiety is normal. @HLB7 I hope I feel better after the scan too! Huge congratulations!!