Reduced movements 30 weeks feel alone

[Ambs2507]

I don’t really know the purpose of this post really other than not having any one I feel I can talk to?
My usually active longed for baby for the past 2 days since turning 30 weeks her movements have reduced. She moves upwards of 60 x’s a day and I’m not feeling her half that much.
I do have an urgent scan booked for tomorrow as I’m considered high risk due to my BMI and also my son had reduced movement and IUGR that wasn’t detected until after birth.
I just feel so alone on this matter like the onus is on me if something is to happen. I’ve just got back from monitoring (the dr yesterday arranged for me to have another session today) and the labour ward manager patronisingly has just said “unhappy babies don’t move at all”.

Have you been monitored today? Sorry I wasn't sure from your post.

Have you spoken to your midwife?

If
You're not happy you go back again. Ignore any patronising comments. The safety of your baby is too important.

What does she mean by unhappy babies? Have these people no idea how distressing this is for you

Do not be intimidated by shitty comment from midwife …if you continue to be worried please go back .
My daughter had limited foetal movements and was monitored and checked regularly,she was never made to feel awkward .
Her baby was fine but they did induce her at 38 weeks .

Tell the midwife to piss off and go to the hospital and get them to check u can never be sure it's better to be safe than sorry hope all goes well x

Listen to your gut OP. As a healthcare professional (although admittedly not in this area) I'd rather see and reassure than something get missed.

I'm sorry you were made to feel that way, I went in 5 times with reduced movements and no push back from the staff. Ended up with 3 extra growth scans as a consequence and was offered induction but ended up going into labour naturally.

Sorry, I'm not a professional but that ward manager needs a stern talking to. I had an IUGR baby and was told at every single appointment (Dopplers every other day from 28 weeks) that unhappy babies move LESS and this is all you have to go on when not hooked up to the monitors.
Hope all goes well. Keep us updated

You are not alone. I went in for a check up just last week (26 weeks). All was fine and felt like I had been really stupid but my midwife said doesn't matter how many times just go with your gut and call them if I think movements are reduced. always the advice is reduced movement not "not moving at all" so comment from ward manager very unhelpful
Sounds like you are doing everything right. I hope that your scan goes well and everything is fine x

That ward manager is wrong, if the baby was poorly out of your belly it would still move a bit. My DDs movements reduced and she turned out to have had a heart condition, she was poorly and needed out of the womb but did still move in there! Keep going back every single time you need to OP, it’s the right thing to do. I’d report that ward manager as well because that’s terrible.

One of mine didn't move much towards the end - had daily monitoring for the last few weeks. Unfortunately despite all the information telling women to get checked out some midwife's act like you're really inconveniencing them. It's terrible.

With DC4 my midwife (who was an absolutely amazing lady) sent me to be monitored as she couldn't get a baseline HR during out appointment. One of the hospital midwife's was like oh baby's very active you shouldn't of been sent in and was huffing and puffing about it.

You're doing right by your baby so please try not to get bothered by the comments you might get.

Hi everyone thank you for your lovely and reassuring messages I am quite overwhelmed by them. I’ve just had my growth scan and baby has dropped centiles since last scan 2 weeks ago so I’m currently sat in MAU regarding this xx