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Pregnancy after miscarriage - positivity needed

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JumbleJo · 18/03/2023 16:40

Hi everyone.

I had a miscarriage last week (I had the surgery). I had thought I was 10 weeks pregnant but then started bleeding, went for a scan and found out the baby had died at 7 weeks.

It has completely broken me and my partner, but I know we have to start trying again soon - I’m 39 in October. I’d love to wait and recover as long as possible but obviously time is not on my side.

I guess I’m just asking for any positive stories of pregnancy after miscarriage. I’ve heard so much about people having mc after mc. I literally know no one who “only” had one mc and then went on to have a successful pregnancy! Especially among women of my age.

It’s not that I want false hope that everything will be ok in future - I know I could well have an mc again and there’s nothing I can do about it. I just feel so anxious about getting pregnant again even though I so, so want a baby. Thank you x

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Overandabove1 · 18/03/2023 16:43

I had a missed miscarriage in April was 9 weeks but baby only measuring 6 weeks when bleeding started. I took a break ttc over summer and fell pregnant in November. Had my anomaly scan on Monday and all looks good so far!

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Moo86 · 18/03/2023 17:33

So sorry for your loss, I’m lost mine at 6 weeks I’m planning to wait for my next period before we try again. X

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ChloeN · 18/03/2023 17:45

Mmc in July, started trying straight away and got pregnant again in November. Am 20 weeks now and all is going well so far! I think it’s more common to have one loss rather than multiple, although it’s hard not to worry! Sorry for your loss xx

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Natpat81 · 18/03/2023 19:49

Sorry to hear of your loss.

I had a MMC in May with my first pregnancy and found out I was pregnant again in November. Now 22 weeks. I am 41. Wishing you the best of luck x

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JumbleJo · 18/03/2023 19:55

Thank you all, you lovely people. I’m so sorry for everybody’s losses. Wishing you all good luck too xx

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PretzelBite · 18/03/2023 20:07

Sorry op. I had a mmc in 2021 and it was truly awful. However this happened in the October, I got my period back in December and conceived in January. I’m now snuggling my 5 month old in bed. So it does happen! I also remember looking through threads at the time and there were even women who had successful pregnancies within 4 weeks of the operation. Fingers crossed for you xx

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HopefulBee · 18/03/2023 20:25

@JumbleJo So sorry to hear about your loss. It is so heartbreaking. I also had a mc in November 22, and afterwards I found sites where women shared their positive outcomes very reassuring. Anyway, we tried again as soon as I started ovulating and had one normal period after the mc and conceived in the second cycle. Am now 13 weeks pregnant and all looks well. I read that only 1% of women have recurrent mcs. There’s also a helpful section on Tommy’s website which has a lot of reassuring data and help tools. Wishing you all the best and hope you and your husband can heal from this experience soon and get your rainbow. ❤️

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Nik84 · Yesterday 08:36

I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks last January. I’m now 17 weeks pregnant and things seem to be going well, obviously lots of anxiety this time. I’m 38 so age was also a concern for me x

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rach971 · Yesterday 10:42

I have a daughter who's 8. I fell pregnant again in July of last year and had a miscarriage in the August. It took my HCG levels over two months to come down, so it took me a while to get my period after the mc. I then fell pregnant again with only that one period in between. I'm now 21 weeks ☺️

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Sassy144 · Yesterday 12:47

I'm so sorry. I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks last January, we were (are) absolutely devastated. I fell pregnant again 3/4 months after. I'm now snuggling my two month old on my first mother's day ❤️ sending you love and hope xxx

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JumbleJo · Yesterday 16:03

These replies are making me cry, but in a good way! I’m so sorry you’ve all gone through this but so happy for you all. This is just what I needed to read, thank you ❤️

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