5 weeks pg, any advise please :(

[teaandcoffee31]

Hi, Iv just got my bfp after ttc for 15 months, I always imagined the moment and that I’d be over joyed etc, but I’m an anxious mess, I’m absolutely bricking it and in total shock, I feel all over the place. I don't recognise myself and feel so detatched to the fact I am pregnant. I feel the lowest of the low and I have never felt so hopeless in all my life. Does this settle? Am I abnormal to be feeling like this 😫 the only feeling I can explain it as is alone - even tho Iv told my mum and partner (who are excited)

Please be kind. I know I am blessed but my brain isn't recognising this.

Xx

It's a big, scary change if it's your first, so you may be experiencing a bit of anxiety. Your hormones are also shifting a lot at this point. If it doesn't straighten out in the next week or two, talk to your doctor about it.

Thank you!! I keep telling myself it's hormones, and yes this is my first. I think I will have a word with my doc. xx

Good idea. I was a bit of a wreck with my first until about 12 weeks, and my second pregnancy was pretty easy. But don't be shy about asking for help if you need it. You will likely be fine once you get in the groove.

Thank you for taking your time to respond, I appreciate it so much. It's a relief to know I'm not the only one in the world who is struggling :) x

You're certainly welcome. It is certainly an odd feeling knowing that a tiny human is growing inside you. Plus, it's such a huge responsibility knowing how utterly dependent they will be on you. That's enough to scare any sane woman.

I'm good now, the first is out of uni and has a good job, the second finishes uni next year. The time flies by.

Not abnormal at all OP. I think part of it might be hormones and the rest just the magnitude of the news! I was crippled with anxiety at about 4-8 weeks. It’s calmed a bit now.

HI @teaandcoffee31, just wondering how you are getting on. Have things settled down a bit?

Hi lovely!! Thank you for checking in on me!! So much better, still on a wobble but no where near as bad as last week, it must have been the shock that rocked me a little 😃 doing a lot better tho. <3 xx

That's great to hear, teaandcoffee. It is a shock to be sure. Keep taking your prenatal vitamins, get as much sleep as you can and eat whatever you fancy. You can always post again to the thread if you want more support or advice. xx

Bless you - this is a much wanted baby so I'm sure things will start to settle once you've had time to process it and get used to the idea that you're pregnant.

I haven't spoken about this before but I felt similarly anxious a couple of days after my BFP - around 14 weeks I felt like I'd made the most awful mistake, I'd be a terrible mother and was thinking about how to broach the idea of a termination with my partner. Again, this was despite baby being planned and very much wanted! I was very surprised and uncomfortable to feel that way and had not expected to feel anything other than excitement and joy. Fortunately this was a very temporary blip and now at nearly 28 weeks I'm feeling much more positive about the pregnancy, I'm excited to finish all our prep for her arrival and feel confident and able to cope with the idea of having a tiny newborn.

I'm telling you this so you know you are absolutely not alone in how you feel, hormones can do weird things and plenty of people have ended up feeling very different to how they expected to feel. Give yourself some time and cut yourself some slack, you've got this.

Thank you for sharing your story <3 it's helps so much hearing I'm not the only one. I'm feeling much better this week (still not 100%) but a lot better and more positive xx