Pregnant after miscarriage

[OneAPennyTwo]

I had a miscarriage at six weeks in January. I’ve just found out that I am pregnant again but I am really struggling. I really want to enjoy this time but I’m so scared that I’m going to miscarry again. Does it get easier? Or am I going to be full of anxiety for the next nine months 🙁

Hi firstly let me say congratulations on your pregnancy, it's a completely different pregnancy and what happened before isn't bound to happen again. I completely get the anxiety though as I mc at 8 weeks in October and I'm currently 5 week pregnant and also worrying but more so because I'm spotting again so hopefully going on progesterone after my scan in a weeks time. I'm so sorry that you went through a mc, it doesn't seem to be a massive thing to everyone but to those who've been through it it's life changing and heartbreaking.

I am on a thread specifically for pregnancy after mc and it's lovely to speak to others who have been through it albeit sad. I'll leave the link below if you fancy venting etc, they are a great bunch of ladies x

www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/4750908-pregnant-after-miscarriage?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

I have never been pregnant and never had a miscarriage and now I am, I am constantly worried that it will be a chemical or a mmc. I know I am not what you're looking for for help but I can say that it does not get any easier!

I believe that the OP will get reassurance from scans and hearing the baby's heart beat going forward as will you and I. The first trimester is the most worrying as you don't even see a midwife til around 8 weeks and no scan til around 12. The best thing we can do is try to enjoy the pregnancy the best we can because I believe that if we struggle to connect with the pregnancy then we could struggle to connect with baby afterwards. Wishing you both the best with your pregnancies ❤️

I had 2 miscarriages at around 5-6 weeks before this pregnancy. I’m nearly 17 weeks and it gets a bit easier after the scan but I’m still constantly worrying. I just keep trying to remind myself it is out of our control and right now I’m pregnant and every week that goes by the less likely something bad is going to happen

I can highly recommend a book called "Pregnancy after loss". It's helped me through the early weeks that were completely filled with anxiety. I had a MMC at 13 weeks last year. Now 27 weeks along and I do still worry but not nearly as much as in the first few weeks. It does get easier, promise!

Thanks ladies I feel all I can do right now is hope for the best

@OneAPennyTwo it’s one of the hardest things about being pregnant when you’ve had previous losses, you struggle to enjoy pregnancy and be excited. It’s really sad. When I had my daughter I hadn’t had a miscarriage and it never crossed my mind. That pregnancy was wonderful (symptoms and all). I am gutted I’ll never have that worry free pregnancy again

Congratulations on your pregnancy, and sorry for your previous loss. I had losses at 5.5 weeks and 5 weeks in October and December last year, and fell pregnant straight off the back of the December loss. I had a reassurance scan at around 7 weeks where we got to see baby’s heartbeat and I have this week had the most fantastic 12 week scan where baby was very active, moving around and waving.
The early days were hard and I just took it a day at a time, keep telling yourself “today, I am pregnant” as time passed I started to take it a week at a time and although the fear doesn’t leave you, it does get easier. And seeing baby on that screen makes all the hard times you go through worthwhile.
Wishing you the best of luck with this pregnancy 🤞🏼

I'm in almost the exact same situation so I completely understand your anxiety. I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks at the start of March and am now pregnant again ( 5 weeks on Saturday). I'm testing daily to see if the line gets darker or fainter. It's taken all the initial joy away from pregnancy but I'm being cautiously optimistic. I hope it all works out for you as well!

How's everyone in this thread doing? I'm 5+4 after a miscarriage at 7+2 in April and am going through so many of these feelings and fears. I keep telling myself, 'Today, I am pregnant', but then those anxieties come creeping in. I'm especially fixated on what the toilet paper is going to look like after I wipe - and since I'm peeing every five minutes...

I wish we didn't have to go through this.

@EstieGreenwood im now 27 weeks pregnant with my baby after my 6 week miscarriage in January, I still panic over the slightest thing like I was put on monitors at 26 weeks and because of the size of baby it was difficult for them to get a reading which was pretty scary. However the relief I felt when I made it to viability week has lifted some of my fears. The worry never goes but the further along you get you do start to feel slightly better. Wishing you all the best with this pregnancy x

@EstieGreenwood I was exactly the same, going to the loo regularly so I could check the loo roll. I’ll be 36 weeks on Monday after 2 pre 6 week losses.
Now I check loo roll for mucus plug (lost a bit last week) or any bleeding. It’s a never ending cycle of anxiety but it does get easier and it’s the best feeling when you hit milestones! Good luck 💕

Thank you both for your kind and reassuring responses @OneAPennyTwo and @Houseelf90 - it's so hard not to freak out over every little thing, but I'm trying to just enjoy each day that I am pregnant and hope it continues.

Congratulations 🤍 I had a MC at 16 weeks in sept 2021, I fell pregnant again in December 21. My pregnancy was an anxious time, but i tried to tell myself that if things go well i knew it would be my last pregnancy and didn't want to spent it completely consumed by worry. I also learned from the pregnancy I lost, that I had no way of knowing that was going to happen and no way of stopping it, sadly. Probably not helpful, but try to relax and take it a day at a time. Once id get to bedtime and I had no reason to think anything was wrong, I would tell myself it was another day done and I was still pregnant 🙂 my rainbow baby is now almost 1! 🥹 good luck for your pregnancy xx