Please could I have opinions - am I being silly? Have to tell my boss I am pregnant soon

[KellyM1998]

Hi all, posting as my last thread didn’t get many responses, don’t really know what the point of this post is to be honest.

I found out unexpectedly that I was pregnant (on the pill at the time) I am 26 and even though I have been independently living and moved out since the age of 18 and I feel I am very mature, I can’t help feeling like 26 is young to be pregnant.

I have to tell my boss soon and I keep putting it off. I have always wanted children I just didn’t think it would happen this soon. We are happy about it but I am so worried about telling my workplace.

Has anyone felt like this before? I know I’m being stupid and it will be fine once it’s over and done with but I can’t help feeling like I’ll be judged for it.

thanks …

Hi lovely,

Didnt want to read and run🤍

DH and I actually started trying for our first baby when I was 25, and mentally I was so ready before. Unfortunately for us, it took 3 years and a round of IVF. But, in all honesty it’s nothing to do with your boss. I get why you may feel anxious, but if they make any sly comments, I’d certainly be speaking to HR.

26 isn’t “too young” to be having babies, and the same goes for women who are 40+ having babies, it’s not “too old”! Life sometimes doesn’t go to plan and that is just how life goes.

What’s making you worry about telling them? Just worried about their thoughts on it?

x

Yep, you’re being silly 😊

women are judged all the time. Too young, too old, how you feed the baby, how you give birth. Part of being a mother is learning to let go of other people’s opinions! All that matters is you and your family.

Who cares what your colleagues think? Chances are you won’t even know these people in a few years.

Thank you for your response! I’m just so worried about being ‘judged’. I am a very sensitive person anyway and I know I need to learn to not care about other peoples opinions but I find it hard x

Awww I know it’s hard when you’re worried, but honestly - people will probably judge whether you’re 20 or 40 😂 because people like to forever be nosey and think they can be opinionated.

You only get one life, spend it doing the things YOU want to do🥰 it’s so short. Fuck everyone else’s opinion, that’s what I say. Maybe I care too little as I’m getting older hahaha x

Part of getting older is you stop caring about other peoples opinions because you stop being so judgemental yourself. I’m now in my early thirties and I don’t bat an eyelid at what age people have babies. You never know what people are going through!

It’s good to deal with the sensitivity before the baby arrives, because everyone has an opinion when you have a baby and it’s important to tell them to fuck off when needed 😂