10 weeks and possible miscarriage

[JumbleJo]

I’m 10 weeks tomorrow and almost sure the baby is gone. I have an emergency scan at the early pregnancy unit tomorrow, so I now just have to wait. I don’t know why I’m writing this really, but I’m just really struggling.

I had an early private scan at 7 weeks and all was well - though a couple of small fibroids were visible. I had surgery last year to remove an enormous one so that was a bit worrying. But it was wonderful to see the baby’s heartbeat.

Since then, I’ve lost pretty much all symptoms - slight nausea came and went in the space of about a week. My boobs are only very slightly tender. And the cramps which have been on and off since 4 weeks have worsened. I started to get bright red spotting on Saturday and again this morning.

I’m not gushing blood or anything but I know that bright red blood + cramping isn’t good. I’m preparing myself for the worse news tomorrow but I don’t think you can ever really prepare, can you? If this baby were to live I’d be giving birth around my 39th birthday - there doesn’t seem time to try again, and I don’t know if I can put myself and my partner through this again anyway.

Apologies for the self pity wallowing, I’m just a bit of a mess right now.

@JumbleJo I couldn't just read and run. First of all, sending you a massive big hug. This must feel like a long wait now for the scan. You do hear of people having bleeds and everything being fine with baby. Hopefully it's just a bit random and the cramps have been stretching etc. I really hope you get some positive reassurance tomorrow. You are absolutely allowed a bit of self-pity and wallowing though! I think there are few times more anxiety provoking than pregnancy. So many inherent uncertainties etc. 6wks today with my second and not quite daring to believe it all yet.

Regarding your other point, of course it's so personal whether you feel able to try again after loss, however age doesn't have to be a limit just yet. There is a thread on here somewhere for ladies over 40 who are expecting and it's a lovely read (I'm 37 so was also interested in the 'older Mum' experiences). However, I very much hope you won't need to think about it.

If you feel able, please update me after your scan. Will be thinking of you. Xx

Hello,

So sorry to hear you are going through this.
It is really positive that you had a successful scan at 7 weeks and try and hold onto that hope over night until your scan!

Unfortunately I have just gone through a missed miscarriage in February so have been doing plenty of reading up on these sort of things and have read many women having bleeding and cramps and there babies are absolutely fine and bleeding/cramps can be no cause for concern.

There’s no way to guess either way as all symptoms seem to either be completely fine or they can be bad news.

Have you been passing any products/clots? Or is it just the red blood?

I really praying for a positive outcome for you tomorrow.
Try not to drive yourself crazy today and just try and hold onto the hope of your positive 7week scan.

@Dinosaur39 It’s just the blood for now. Thank you so much for your message and I’m really sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I will definitely add an update when I know what’s going on.

@SnookyPook Thank you so much for your supportive message. I will definitely update the thread as soon as I can. Thank you for pointing me towards the older mums thread too, I really appreciate that x

Hoping for the best for you!
Try not to work yourself up too much today and stay positive as best you can.

So sorry to hear you're going through a worrying time. I had a MMC last year and it was such a difficult thing to experience.
Just to give you two aspects of hope though.

1. I conceived again immediately, as in three weeks after the surgical management of my mc. I'm now 26 weeks along and although I'm still anxious, it's all looking good. It means I'm only three months behind where I would have been had the previous pregnancy worked out. So if you feel like time isn't on your side, be reassured that you might conceive again really quickly if this turns out to be a MC for you.

2. I had 5 episodes of heavy bleeding with this current pregnancy, from 4-8 weeks, including cramps. I was literally soaking through pads with bright red blood. I was convinced each time that it was the end but baby clung on! Of course I can't guarantee you that your situation will have a positive outcome but I just wanted to share a positive story with you.

Sending you lots of love and all the best, especially for tomorrow. x

@UnicornRainbowSky Thank you ❤️ I’m so sorry to hear about your MMC but that’s so wonderful that you’re pregnant again! Very best of luck. I’ll update the thread with any news x

Hello. I had my scan and the baby died a few weeks ago, must have been just a couple of days after the early scan. Going into hospital tomorrow for the surgical procedure. Devastated obviously, even though I knew it was going to happen. Thank you again for your supportive messages xx

I am so, so sorry xxxx

@JumbleJo so so sorry my lovely. Sending you a massive hug. 😞

I am so sorry to hear this 😢
Life can be so cruel.
Be kind to yourself and take all the time you need to process what has happened and heal.
Theres lots of forums offering support.