Vanishing twin syndrome

[PPop]

Has anyone else had any experience of vanishing twin syndrome? I am just coming into 12W of pregnancy and the twin died at 8W, the sac is still growing so I am looking for any other experiences of this?

I felt like I couldn't be outwardly sad or discuss it at first but I read some articles and I definitely need to grieve but my concern lies with the existing baby and making sure that little one is safe.

@PPop I've just had a similar experience on Friday. Had a scan at 9+3 for NIPT and they wouldn't do it as there was a sac there too along with the baby. Its a very conflicting time, I'm happy the other baby is doing well but can't help but feel a sense of sadness at the same time for the baby that could have been. My partner doesn't get why I'm upset. I understand this probably doesn't help but just wanted to share experience.

It does bring up a complicated range of emotions I didn't quite expect. I had always wanted twins, though then I feel bad like I shouldn't feel grief because at least I have one baby.

Hi guys, I went for a scan today at 8 weeks as I've had some spotting, and they saw a healthy looking baby measuring 7wk4d (which fits with ovulation), she then said 'oh that looks like there was a twin there that didn't quite make it', she looked closer and we saw a heartbeat. I could tell it was slower than the other babies' and as it was so, so small compared to the other one I was told it was likely to pass away and be absorbed by my body, and it'd be classed as a vanishing twin. I can't really describe what I'm feeling today. Obviously after the spotting, I'm happy that so far there's a healthy looking baby in there, but there's another niggling feeling that's a bit sad too, and the thought it's still alive, but probably won't be when we scan again in 2 weeks... I don't know.

Sorry you are both going through this, it is not a nice feeling at all. I had a feeling at the start that it was twins as it runs in the family and my symptoms were a lot stronger than in my first. I also had spotting at 6 weeks but thought nothing of it as it was also after sex so thought perhaps it was this. Then my feelings were confirmed with the news of vanishing twins! I just have to come to terms with it and make sure the remaining baby is OK. Hope you both are doing well.

Yep. Had scan at what I thought was 13 weeks and told one twin was measuring 14 weeks and doing well and the other stopped developing at 12 weeks and no heart beat. I’ve had a hood cry about it, we are off to the coast this weekend to say goodbye properly. Very mixed emotions

I was told dd was originally a twin, by the time I was scanned (18 weeks then) there wasn't any evidence except I had a 2 vessel cord and "extra" on the ultrasound, lots of tests later dd was pronounced as fine and I gave birth on time but she was small (due to the 2 vessel cord I was told) and there was evidence she was a twin.

I had another scan yesterday at 11 weeks and it's been confirmed as a vanishing twin- no evidence to be seen of the smaller one (that was still there last week on monday). Very strange and weird mixed emotions.
I'm worried about the surviving twin, although it was measuring the right size and wriggly..