Losing my social life and feeling fed up...

[LottieBuzz]

Hi!

So I'm 10 weeks pregnant and can't wait until 12 weeks when I can finally tell people!

Before getting pregnant my social and family life revolved fairly heavily around drinking. Not in a bad, problem, kind of way. But most Friday and Saturday evenings would be a few drinks at the pub and dinner at my parents always involved a glass of wine with dinner.

I've known I'm pregnant since 3 weeks and since then have avoided seeing my friends and family to avoid the awkward not drinking situation...they would know I was pregnant the second I turned down a drink!

But now I'm bored, fed up of saying no to plans and being stuck in the house. A very first world problem I know but does anyone else feel this way?

Thanks,

I’m the same. We used to run a pub so our friends are very much based around the pub still. So when we’d meet up it would be at the pub with some drinks. Now I feel like I can’t go out because everyone would immediately know. I drink cider usually so I can’t even pretend I’m having something with coke or lemonade because I rarely drink shorts. I’m only 6 weeks along so I’ve still got a long way to go. My husband reckons I can get away with using the antibiotics excuse but that’s gotta be the most overused code word for secretly pregnant 😂 I was actually on them a few years ago and everyone assumed I was pregnant 🤦‍♀️

Good to know I'm not the only one! Saturday night and I'm home watching Netflix 😂 I suppose its just a sign of things to come, a change in lifestyle, but it will all be worth it in the end! Hope everything goes well with you 🙂

Can you meet up on a weekend day instead of evening or do a specific activity that doesn't involve drinking?

So I found out I was pregnant at the start of December and this was one of my biggest worries of how to hide early pregnancy in the season of endless parties!
I was shocked to find that it was actually so much easier than I thought! Like you, my social life was fairly boozy, and my family love wine and champagne so that was flowing over the Christmas holidays, and I got away with no one knowing at all.

What I would say is maybe give it a go putting your self out there and you might be surprised that people don’t pay as much attention to you as you think. I never turned down a drink, I would just go to the bar alone and get a tonic and lime (aka g&t) or 0% beer/cider and pour it into a pint before going back to the group. If someone bought me a drink I would pour it out in the loo, or DH would slyly drink both our drinks. At home if we had guests over I had a bottle of 0% wine in the fridge and I would keep guests topped up with the real stuff and me with my 0% wine.
Home with parents at a sit down dinner was slightly trickier, but I never said no to wine (too much of a red flag), I just asked for a bit less than usual due to having a migraine/coming down with something etc. I’d fake sip, and pour into someone else’s glass or down the sink.
One to one wine dates with my close gals pretty much had to go out the window, but bigger groups are much easier to trick!
Good luck!