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Post natal advice, can anyone help? **TRIGGER WARNING stillbirth mentioned

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Shefliesonherownwings · 04/03/2023 10:00

Hi all

Not sure if anyone can help but thought I’d ask. Sorry this is long! In 2019 I was pregnant with my first, a DD. Unfortunately she was stillborn at 41 weeks. Investigations found her death was avoidable and identified failings in both the community midwives care and the hospital where she was born - she passed away during labour.

We went on to have DS a year later, he was born at a different hospital out of area. I saw a midwife at the hospital and for post natal care had to travel to a community centre in the hospital area. This travel with a newborn proved to be quite stressful, DS wasn’t putting on enough weight and had some jaundice so we were there every day. I’d had a c section too so having to get in and out of the car and make the journey was hard work but we did it because we were adamant we did not want any of the local community midwife’s coming to our house after their failings with DD. At that time DH was also not working for a couple of months so was able to drive us.

I’m now pregnant again with our third at the same hospital where we had DS and they are looking to arrange the post natal care. They obv know all about DD so are looking at where I can go after birth. The thing is this time the place they’ve found is further away as the place we went with DS isn’t around anymore. Also whilst DH will get 2 weeks paternity leave he’s now working and his work aren’t all that flexible so may not be available after the two weeks if we need to keep going. I don’t really have anyone else to ask to take us. Plus I am having another c section and the thought of all the travel back and forth if this baby needs checking as often fills me with dread.

We’re now registered with a different gp although live at the same address as when we had DD but I’m wondering if we can be seen by the local community midwives at home but stipulate those involved in DDs care (we have their names) are not to see us. I’m not sure if there is a head of the community midwives I can speak to or if I should ask my new gp? Or if that is even possible? Does anyone know if you can request certain midwife’s are not involved?? Ideally we would be seen at home but not by anyone involved in DDs care.

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Vegrocks · 04/03/2023 10:02

In your circumstance they will be very understanding and work best they can to accommodate your wishes

Moonicorn · 05/03/2023 16:12

Sorry Im a bit fuzzy brained today, so you’re giving birth at a different hospital to where your DD was born (and that’s all arranged) but postnatal care (aka visits from HV/midwives to your house in the early days, rather than the maternity ward stay) is what is being queried here? Yes I should think you can request the midwives involved with your DD are not involved this time and they send someone else - as far as I’m aware you can make this request for any or no reason, so it shouldn’t be an issue. Sorry for your loss 💐

Shefliesonherownwings · 05/03/2023 20:11

@Moonicorn yes that’s right. Different hospital to DD and all that is sorted. C section booked etc… It’s the post natal care that is needing to be arranged now.

Just not sure who to speak to about the post natal care, my current midwife even though she is out of area or gp. GP obviously local but a pain to actually get in to see them. Think I’ll just try both and see who can help. Thanks

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